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Old 11-08-2012, 11:44 PM
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I've got one. PLEASE make sure that you and your primary are on good terms before you start seeing someone else. Parameters and rules should be well established and understood BEFORE taking on a secondary lover. DO NOT wait for a secondary to come along before hammering out what you and your primary are and aren't comfortable with them doing with other people. DO NOT use your secondary as a focal point for resolving issues. Trust me, it can *really* be a pain in the ass for everyone involved if you wait until your partner is seeing someone else to tell them that you weren't happy with the established rules. So I guess this is more directed toward metamours-to-be: if you agree to an open relationship, do A LOT of introspection before you agree to something in theory that you might be uncomfortable with in practice.
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