Originally Posted by AggieSez
- DON’T bail at the first bump. A well respected leader in the poly community told me, “What’s really radical about polyamory is not that you have multiple relationships, or that everyone involved knows about it — but that you don’t automatically jettison new partners when there’s trouble.” I discuss the importance of committing to hanging in there and working together to find solutions and options (or simply to allow your comfort zone to expand), while keeping all of the significant relationships in the network intact.
Oh how I wish my partner had read this before our breakup. We had a discussion of issues just once and it was the night we ended. First bump and game over despite being happy and successful for months as a non-primary.