How do you see this issue?
I see it as a vocab use thing more than anything.
Not an issue for me. I think people are all different and can be how they want to be.
I also think it sure makes being X and communicating with others a lot easier when people take the time to calibrate/clarify their vocab use when talking to each other. "Chips" in the US is different than in England.
To me? In the briefest way I can make it?
- Monosexual -- desire or capacity to share sex with one partner
- Polysexual -- desire or capacity to share sex more than one partner
- monoamorous -- desire or capacity to share love with one partner
- polyamorous -- desire or capacity to share love with with more than one partners.
- Monogamous -- desire or capacity for relationship structure with one other partner only
- Non-monogamous -- desire or capacity for relationship structure with more than one partner. And there can be many open relationship models.
- Swinging -- a type of open non-monogamous relationship model. Partners in a committed relationship engage in (casual, no strings attached sex share) with other people for recreation/socializing.
There can be some honest, ethical swingers who are (monoamorous and polysexual.) They want to love the one partner, but enjoy recreational sex with several partners.
There can be some honest, ethical swingers who are (polyamorous and polysexual). They love many partners, and also enjoy recreational sex with several partners.
There can be some honest, ethical "not sure, questioning, experimenting, exploring" people trying new stuff on.
There can be some "less than honest/ethical swingers"
- People not really into it, but going along for partner's sake on the one one side of the spectrum. They are hurting themselves doing that.
- People who are predators on the other end of the spectrum. They hurt others.
Nothing wrong with honest/ethical (exploring, swinging or polyamory) -- but could remember all people are different.
It's not just (either/or) toggles at play here. Like "either polyamorous or swinging."
It could be (either/or/both/neither/some/none) depending on the person!
Hope that makes sense.
Galagirl