Hi
I've recently started dating a wonderful man, he and his wife were looking for separate poly relationships, when we met his wife had a bf and from the onset when I asked if there were any restrictions or boundries that were to be honored they both said no. I've been dating my bf for a couple of months now, and recently we became intimate, meanwhile his wife broke up with her bf, she was still fine with our relationship, a couple of weeks ago we all went out together, myself, my bf and his wife, we all had fun, after the date I was told by his wife she was having a few twinges, but was working through them, since then the twinges have gone to her not knowing if she can handle a poly relationship between us, to again her working on it, to her now saying she doesn't want us to have sex, or oral and only have an overnight twice a month, we see eachother one once a week, to not texting or talking to him in the evenings as this is their bonding time. I am trying to be supportive and know that feelings do arise in a poly relationship, but can't help feeling that these are just passive aggressive moves to end the relationship without her seeming to be the bad guy. Am I overreacting? Do I give her the time, but put a time limit on it?
I've recently started dating a wonderful man, he and his wife were looking for separate poly relationships, when we met his wife had a bf and from the onset when I asked if there were any restrictions or boundries that were to be honored they both said no. I've been dating my bf for a couple of months now, and recently we became intimate, meanwhile his wife broke up with her bf, she was still fine with our relationship, a couple of weeks ago we all went out together, myself, my bf and his wife, we all had fun, after the date I was told by his wife she was having a few twinges, but was working through them, since then the twinges have gone to her not knowing if she can handle a poly relationship between us, to again her working on it, to her now saying she doesn't want us to have sex, or oral and only have an overnight twice a month, we see eachother one once a week, to not texting or talking to him in the evenings as this is their bonding time. I am trying to be supportive and know that feelings do arise in a poly relationship, but can't help feeling that these are just passive aggressive moves to end the relationship without her seeming to be the bad guy. Am I overreacting? Do I give her the time, but put a time limit on it?