So much time has passed and so much has happened since I last posted.
My grandson's little sister, she's going into first grade this fall, now wants to spend the night sometime. I think she and her little brother have a hard time with the big brother having a grandma that they don't have. I'm considering taking her on a Friday night and then meeting them the next morning/noon at the farmer's market.
Let's see, we got the sink in the night before the move. We were there until 11:30 pm and in bed by midnight, although without time to decompress it was hard to fall asleep. The movers were great. I'm so thankful she hired them. We're all getting too old to be schlepping furniture. The king-size platform had to be taken apart and reassembled, but the rest of the stuff was moved without a hitch.
B is getting settled in the new house and it's looking pretty cute. She plans on buying a sectional for the living room when her house closes at the end of the month, so in the meantime that room is looking a little forlorn.
This weekend Bond and I are going to visit my longtime friend, former bestie, up north. We're meeting her and her partner at his family's cabin/condo. I did not invite B along, because my friend invited Bond and me, and I didn't push to include B. I no doubt should have and if I had B wouldn't be having icky feels about us going away without her. Some history: this friend and I had a big falling out over her supposedly support for polyamory, but attitude that it's harmful for children being raised in a poly household, which in the end means she doesn't really approve of polyamory. She has recanted her statement and we've tried to patch things up, but in my head I still have her attitude categorized as not approving. I also want to have a normal getaway with Bond. I realized with all of the house stuff happening we never let B know that we were going to be gone for the weekend, so on Monday I did that. Ugh, bad feels all around. B feels left out, Bond feels like she's applying a double standard, and I feel guilty for not including her and guilty for wanting to have time with Bond and my friend. I haven't visited this friend in years and I'd really like to fall into the outwardly socially acceptable relationship model just for a weekend. We thought we'd discuss this Tuesday night, but we skirted the topic and threw ourselves into date night instead. The next day B requested that we talk about wants and expectations next date night.
I should expound on the double standard situation; B does things with her friends, including out of state visits, and doesn't include us. When Bond asks she tells him it wouldn't interest him, he'd be bored, etc. Additionally, she planned a friend trip to New Orleans in late September without regard to the plans we had to go to the Wisconsin Burning Man. It basically feels like she has us hostage when it comes to vacations.
One thing we did discuss was going to visit my granddaughter in KY. Her first birthday is on the 25th and they are having a big party in TN, closer to her great grandparent's than their house so they can attend. B was all on board about going that night, but by morning said she couldn't due to finances. She thought we were going longer than we are planning and we kind of settled some assumptions. She said she's going to talk to WP about him keeping the kids. I kind of think she's going to back out of going.
More to say, but gotta go.
My grandson's little sister, she's going into first grade this fall, now wants to spend the night sometime. I think she and her little brother have a hard time with the big brother having a grandma that they don't have. I'm considering taking her on a Friday night and then meeting them the next morning/noon at the farmer's market.
Let's see, we got the sink in the night before the move. We were there until 11:30 pm and in bed by midnight, although without time to decompress it was hard to fall asleep. The movers were great. I'm so thankful she hired them. We're all getting too old to be schlepping furniture. The king-size platform had to be taken apart and reassembled, but the rest of the stuff was moved without a hitch.
B is getting settled in the new house and it's looking pretty cute. She plans on buying a sectional for the living room when her house closes at the end of the month, so in the meantime that room is looking a little forlorn.
This weekend Bond and I are going to visit my longtime friend, former bestie, up north. We're meeting her and her partner at his family's cabin/condo. I did not invite B along, because my friend invited Bond and me, and I didn't push to include B. I no doubt should have and if I had B wouldn't be having icky feels about us going away without her. Some history: this friend and I had a big falling out over her supposedly support for polyamory, but attitude that it's harmful for children being raised in a poly household, which in the end means she doesn't really approve of polyamory. She has recanted her statement and we've tried to patch things up, but in my head I still have her attitude categorized as not approving. I also want to have a normal getaway with Bond. I realized with all of the house stuff happening we never let B know that we were going to be gone for the weekend, so on Monday I did that. Ugh, bad feels all around. B feels left out, Bond feels like she's applying a double standard, and I feel guilty for not including her and guilty for wanting to have time with Bond and my friend. I haven't visited this friend in years and I'd really like to fall into the outwardly socially acceptable relationship model just for a weekend. We thought we'd discuss this Tuesday night, but we skirted the topic and threw ourselves into date night instead. The next day B requested that we talk about wants and expectations next date night.
I should expound on the double standard situation; B does things with her friends, including out of state visits, and doesn't include us. When Bond asks she tells him it wouldn't interest him, he'd be bored, etc. Additionally, she planned a friend trip to New Orleans in late September without regard to the plans we had to go to the Wisconsin Burning Man. It basically feels like she has us hostage when it comes to vacations.
One thing we did discuss was going to visit my granddaughter in KY. Her first birthday is on the 25th and they are having a big party in TN, closer to her great grandparent's than their house so they can attend. B was all on board about going that night, but by morning said she couldn't due to finances. She thought we were going longer than we are planning and we kind of settled some assumptions. She said she's going to talk to WP about him keeping the kids. I kind of think she's going to back out of going.
More to say, but gotta go.