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Old 06-10-2010, 08:04 AM
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Interesting. I DO enjoy giving a blow-job for the sake of itself, and I've done it in a "casual setting" where I did not have an orgasm of my own body, and never thought of it as having "nothing in it for me".
Yep. I understand in principle that many women actually enjoy giving blowjobs. It took me a really long time to actually believe it, that they weren't just being used or doing it for some other benefit. Now, I can totally understand the empowering ability to control a man's orgasm that way, and the vulnerability it puts them in. I just dislike the physical sensation of putting a penis in my mouth.

RP: I get where you're coming from. I have the luxury of being 28, childless, with all the time in the world. As an introverted homebody, I spend most of that time on my own, but I like it that way. I enjoy company, too. Don't really find myself desiring casual sex anymore -- I find much more satisfaction from spiritual/reflective type experiences, like yoga or helping people who need it.
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Old 06-10-2010, 02:35 PM
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Thanks for bringing it up ygirl. *waves hand in the air* oh oh oh ME...! I love giving blow jobs and hand jobs for exactly the reason you state schro.
Yippee... Now I want to give one...

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Old 06-10-2010, 03:58 PM
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The posts on blow jobs and casual sex have been moved here in order to keep DD123's thread on-topic.
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Old 06-10-2010, 04:06 PM
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But now, this is getting to the point where we might have to split some of the posts off into another thread, and I might need a cold shower.
You might?..jesus...haha...I might have to stop reading this forum at work

The juxtaposition you mention is the exact reason why I love blowjobs...now. This will sound odd, but enjoying blowjobs is really recent for me. I refused to let girls do it, because it was just so damn dominant I couldn't handle it. Not to mention being uncut makes the technique very different something most north american women do not get on the first try....

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this is one reason i'm not a big fan of sixty-nine.
Now, this is something I have always enjoyed (ya I know I said I didn't like blowjobs, but this is a whole different world)...I think its a timing thing for me, or even competition but its one of the few times the guy and girl are working out of sync to make the same end result ideally at the same time. I find it an incredible feeling if it all comes together at the same time...
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Old 06-10-2010, 04:14 PM
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With 69, I don't like the angle, either. It's not possible for me to position so that the guy can get his mouth on my pussy and I can maneuver my mouth effectively over his penis. I suppose I could do it with another female because our anatomy is different.

When I first got with my husband he didn't want blowjobs but now he rarely refuses one.

I do not think there is much difference between sucking a circumcised versus an uncircumcised penis when they are erect. The uncircumcised one just has looser skin and I'd put my hand on it and hold it back, and voila, instant circumcised penis.
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Old 06-10-2010, 04:25 PM
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With 69, I don't like the angle, either. It's not possible for me to position so that the guy can get his mouth on my pussy and I can maneuver my mouth effectively over his penis. I suppose I could do it with another female because our anatomy is different.
At 6'5 I find this less of a problem. Average height girls fit fine. My tall girlfriends were usually at my knees and the short ones at my belly button. There are definite logistic issues with 69ing

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I do not think there is much difference between sucking a circumcised versus an uncircumcised penis when they are erect. The uncircumcised one just has looser skin and I'd put my hand on it and hold it back, and voila, instant circumcised penis.
There is for some. Some foreskin is tighter than others, so you can't just start reaming on it as some women are prone to do. ...This is one are where girls who learned from porn, are at a massive disadvantage.

I had one girl attack my penis like a porn star, ended up slapping the back of her head to make her stop, women complain about men not taking direction, well it can happen the other way to hahahaha she wasn't believing me when I was telling her to stop
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Old 06-10-2010, 04:40 PM
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Despite the fact that there were peaks in activism and public awareness that intimidated many people into putting on a face of "changing" their outlook, down deep - REALLY deep - little changed.

So although during the 60s and 70s there was a swell of female sexual liberation (and acceptance) on the surface, at the root little seems to have changed.

So be careful ladies. They are STILL out to slap the chains (and chastity belts) on you ! Or better yet - have you slap them on yourselves and BELIEVE it was your own choice !

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I don't think that someone's REALLY deep outlook on anything is anyone's business other than the person who holds that outlook.

True, we won't be able to change things at the root, but in this case I think that the cure(policing someone's deepest thoughts complete with mandatory painful self examination and correction when those thoughts are not in line with societal norms) is far worse than the disease.

In regards to casual sex, I think that we will always have some people that are uncomfortable with it. As long as they don't actually do something about their discomfort(which we should resist) I think it is part of living in a society that is not ideologically pure.
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Old 06-10-2010, 04:44 PM
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There is for some. Some foreskin is tighter than others, so you can't just start reaming on it as some women are prone to do. ...This is one are where girls who learned from porn, are at a massive disadvantage.

I had one girl attack my penis like a porn star, ended up slapping the back of her head to make her stop, women complain about men not taking direction, well it can happen the other way to hahahaha she wasn't believing me when I was telling her to stop
Anyone who uses porn as an instructional video is going to find themselves needing a reality-check. You may have heard the saying that if a pose or position is comfortable, it probably doesn't look good on camera, and vice-versa.

I haven't watched THAT much porn (compared to how much is out there), but it got to the point where I could tell if my partner had been watching too much porn because of what they were trying to do and how they were trying to do it.

"Um, excuse me, but did you see this in a skin-flick?"

"Yeah... "[Name of Some Generic Porno Flick]". Why? You've seen that one?"

"No, but I can tell that what you're doing won't work, so I assumed you saw it on film and wanted to try it out."

"Oh. How do you KNOW it won't work?"

Etc.

Don't even get me started on the guys who thought they would fuck me in the ass and then get me to suck their dick right afterward. Ain't gonna happen, not in this life or any other. Just because I'm "adventurous" doesn't mean I'll do whatever comes to mind (and I do not take it up the ass. I think I discussed this in another thread, or maybe earlier in this one).
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Old 06-10-2010, 04:54 PM
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As long as they don't actually do something about their discomfort.
You mean like imposing their beliefs on others through some kind of enforceable societal judgement?

As far as the basic discussion of casual sex goes, is it really anything more than "what works for me doesn't have to work for you?"

The only implication of differing views I can really see is when determining if someone fits our own criteria to have a relationship with. Not everyone is compatible but no one's opinion of casual sex is evolved or the right path for anyone but themselves.
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Old 06-10-2010, 08:02 PM
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But now, this is getting to the point where we might have to split some of the posts off into another thread, and I might need a cold shower.
You already gave me reason for a cold shower.

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