dingedheart
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What kind of little beach car ?
What kind of little beach car ?
"No drama" is a pet peeve of mine. When I see it, I assume the person wants only a very casual relationship. I am not to expect that my needs will be met, and I'm not to make a fuss about anything they do, no matter how callous. In other words, people looking for no drama often seem to be the ones creating the drama.
"No drama" is a pet peeve of mine. When I see it, I assume the person wants only a very casual relationship. I am not to expect that my needs will be met, and I'm not to make a fuss about anything they do, no matter how callous. In other words, people looking for no drama often seem to be the ones creating the drama.
Good point. I hadn't thought of it that way. The reason I had put it was not wanting inappropriate talk. Meaning hey baby send me naked pictures. So I guess it should be worded differently.
This is ABSOLUTELY what I see. XBF told me they 'don't do drama,' clearly scorning all those he thinks DO do drama. I came to understand it meant exactly that--we do whatever we want and YOU are not supposed to cause any waves.
I think you need to just say that, then. I think people who make a habit of asking for and sending such pictures don't see that as 'drama' at all. In their experience both people are having fun, and you're the problem for being so uptight about just being asked. They would never see the word drama and conclude it's about asking/or not asking for nude pictures.
Thanks I plan on taking that down. One thing I am learning is I cannot control other people or give rules as to how to live their life. How people talk to me is their choice and how I respond is mine.
Yes I can be uptight sometimes depending on the situation. And no I do not ever send nude pics. Not even to my own husband. Not being a prude just had a few mishaps before and would rather not have them happen again.
I'm definitely not saying you're uptight for not sending nude pictures. I'm saying, this is how these guys will interpret it.
This is possibly creating false expectations, and is where you should nix the nude pix. You could give reasons why you don't want your photo on OKCupid (without mentioning the future CEO).Hi. Thanks for coming and checking out my page. I do not have a pic up but I am on kik and will exchange pictures that way.
If you want to say that you'll get off on scaring him, leave it like this.I am pretty spontaneous and will try anything once. I think if it scares you then it's worth trying.
I am married and in an open marriage. I love my life and my husband (and he loves me), so I'm not looking to swap either of them for "something/someone better". Neither my husband nor I cheat because we're perfectly honest with each other about our other relationships. We won't have relationships with cheats, either, so if you're into the "high drama" of infidelity, give us both a miss. (When I said that I like "scary", I did not mean jealous wives aiming shotguns at me.)I am married and in an open marriage. First and foremost I am not looking for drama. I love my life and look forward to meeting new people. I am hoping to find friends on here that can turn into more.
In screenwriting, what makes a drama (rather than a comedy) is conflict. Conflict and drama go hand in hand. So, I always interpret "I'm not into any drama" as "I'm not into any conflict." They don't want anyone who's going to give them lip, stir up shit for no reason, etc.
I didn't say that life or relationships shouldn't have conflict. Conflict is natural on a planet with billions of people.
But some people create conflict -- and creating conflict for conflict's sake = drama.
If there is no conflict on the movie screen, it will be a pretty boring, un-dramatic movie. Some people are afraid of living boring lives and are drawn to creating conflict and building it up because it gives them a rush, a problem to conquer, and a sense of purpose or something to accomplish, even if they are complaining about having to deal with it! And people like that, I call drama queens.
When I see dating profiles stating that the person doesn't want drama, because of my screenwriting training and experience, I see the subtext that they don't want to deal with conflict, and I tend to scoff at that. Because conflict happens. I want someone who can handle conflict and be willing to make some effort to resolve it, not avoid it altogether.
I can also see the other side of it, because I don't want to get involved with someone who is used to creating drama in their life, instead of looking for peace and happiness.
But people who say in their profiles that they want to avoid drama tend to make me want to question that a bit, because it seems unrealistic to me.
To me, the protestations against drama on dating profiles make me think that this person has had a series of drama filled relationships, and they're not seeing that they are the common denominator in it. Which means they either attract fixer-uppers, or they manufacture drama without conscious effort.
And by "cheap" I mean when you watch the beginning of a TV program & within seconds know how it's going to play out, because they'd already begun trying to "cue" your emotions with something that's trite, hackneyed, cliche, & you've seen it a dozen or a hundred times before.melodrama consistently displays "key constitutive factors": pathos, overwrought or heightened emotion, moral polarization (good vs. evil), non-classical narrative structure (e.g., use of extreme coincidence and "deus ex machina"), and sensationalism (emphasis on action, violence, and thrills).
Melodrama films are ... characterised by a plot that appeals to the heightened emotions of the audience. They generally depend on stereotyped character development, interaction, and highly emotional themes. Melodramatic films tend to use plots that often deal with crises of human emotion, failed romance or friendship, strained familial situations, tragedy, illness, neuroses, or emotional and physical hardship.
Victims, couples, virtuous and heroic characters or suffering protagonists (usually heroines) in melodramas are presented with tremendous social pressures, threats, repression, fears, improbable events or difficulties with friends, community, work, lovers, or family. The melodramatic format allows the character to work through their difficulties or surmount the problems with resolute endurance, sacrificial acts, and steadfast bravery.
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Just wanted to add that if you're driving a Jetta, there's a whole bunch of VW fans who would start a conversation based on that alone.