Hi everyone, I'm a new member and really need some help.
My wife and I have been together for 25 years, we are both 46. I have a younger friend who is 23 years old and have known him for about 10 years. For many years I've listened to him talk about how hot my wife is and how fun it we be of we could have a threesome with her and of course being a typical man, I thought yeah that would be fun.
Last June, he was having girlfriend issues and moved in with us and everything just kinda moved along, of course he would still mention how fun it would be to get with my wife. Last December, my wife and I were on the subject of a popular female singer and I said, oh man would I love to get her in with us. My wife's reply was, I couldn't bring another woman into the bed but another man I could.
Well, somehow in the course of talk over a couple days, our young 23 year old friend ended up in bed with us and so began the poly relationship.
My intention originally was just bedroom fun, I didn't even know what this poly thing was, or that it even existed. My wife was explaining it to me and also convinced me that it was normal to love more than one man and seeing how her and him were developing feelings for each other, I decided to go along with it.
Fast foward to yesterday. Two weeks ago I was in a bad car accident and have pretty much been laid up but I can still perform in bed. Our young partner doesn't think I should be messing around like that, so he hasn't wanted to be involved in the three thing. Yesterday, he sent my wife a text saying he really wanted her but wasn't comfortable doing it at the house with me and our kids at home. My wife made arrangements for a room and dinner at a local casino for the both of them and on their date they went.
Now, here's where it gets bad. The whole time they were gone, I wanted nothing more than someone to come along and put a bullet in my head! The feeling of knowing that someone is with your wife in bed and having no control over it is really scary to me. This is not my first jealousy issue with this relationship, yes I keep blowing it but dang, how do I deal with this? I was really hurt that I wasn't invited along and to make matters worse, him and I had a small argument yesterday over nothing to do with the relationship but non the less, I was kinda pissed at him.
I have sat and encouraged my wife and him for the last couple of weeks to get out and be alone and connect but as soon as last night hit, I completely fell apart.
I know people here have had simillar issues and I would really like to know how to handle my jealousy in a better less frustrating way. Now to throw another twist on the situation. I have been attracted to men most of my life and my wife knows it, although I really have never gone out and experienced it. I kinda fell for our partner and my wife knows, because she's the one that somehow managed to point it out to me, even though I tried to deny it. Could it be be that I'm jealous of both of them? Either way, I want this thing to work and could really use some advice! Thank you.
My wife and I have been together for 25 years, we are both 46. I have a younger friend who is 23 years old and have known him for about 10 years. For many years I've listened to him talk about how hot my wife is and how fun it we be of we could have a threesome with her and of course being a typical man, I thought yeah that would be fun.
Last June, he was having girlfriend issues and moved in with us and everything just kinda moved along, of course he would still mention how fun it would be to get with my wife. Last December, my wife and I were on the subject of a popular female singer and I said, oh man would I love to get her in with us. My wife's reply was, I couldn't bring another woman into the bed but another man I could.
Well, somehow in the course of talk over a couple days, our young 23 year old friend ended up in bed with us and so began the poly relationship.
My intention originally was just bedroom fun, I didn't even know what this poly thing was, or that it even existed. My wife was explaining it to me and also convinced me that it was normal to love more than one man and seeing how her and him were developing feelings for each other, I decided to go along with it.
Fast foward to yesterday. Two weeks ago I was in a bad car accident and have pretty much been laid up but I can still perform in bed. Our young partner doesn't think I should be messing around like that, so he hasn't wanted to be involved in the three thing. Yesterday, he sent my wife a text saying he really wanted her but wasn't comfortable doing it at the house with me and our kids at home. My wife made arrangements for a room and dinner at a local casino for the both of them and on their date they went.
Now, here's where it gets bad. The whole time they were gone, I wanted nothing more than someone to come along and put a bullet in my head! The feeling of knowing that someone is with your wife in bed and having no control over it is really scary to me. This is not my first jealousy issue with this relationship, yes I keep blowing it but dang, how do I deal with this? I was really hurt that I wasn't invited along and to make matters worse, him and I had a small argument yesterday over nothing to do with the relationship but non the less, I was kinda pissed at him.
I have sat and encouraged my wife and him for the last couple of weeks to get out and be alone and connect but as soon as last night hit, I completely fell apart.
I know people here have had simillar issues and I would really like to know how to handle my jealousy in a better less frustrating way. Now to throw another twist on the situation. I have been attracted to men most of my life and my wife knows it, although I really have never gone out and experienced it. I kinda fell for our partner and my wife knows, because she's the one that somehow managed to point it out to me, even though I tried to deny it. Could it be be that I'm jealous of both of them? Either way, I want this thing to work and could really use some advice! Thank you.