MsEmotional
Member
Hi all!
I am new to polyamory. I am married and we've discussed it for years, but all of a sudden we got serious about it and before I knew it I was chatting with someone from an online dating website. We met in person and both felt a spark.
I am really enjoying myself, but I am also, I don't know -- nervous? I have no concept of how this is "supposed" to go or how to do it "right." Things feel like they are moving really fast (emotionally -- chatting online for hours and making plans for things to do next month....) and I am cool with just letting that happen, but I am worried that maybe this is too fast? It feels awesome and fun, but I worry that I will get hurt, they will get hurt, or my husband will get hurt.
Also, they keep bringing up that i should share my "needs" when I am comfortable. I feel like I am comfortable sharing just about anything with this person, but I don't know what they mean by "needs." Is this code for setting boundaries around the relationship? Or is it code for talking about what we both like in bed? I just have no idea how to answer this question and I feel like I am missing out on some of the procedures because I am dating someone familiar with polyamory and I am a total newbie!
I am new to polyamory. I am married and we've discussed it for years, but all of a sudden we got serious about it and before I knew it I was chatting with someone from an online dating website. We met in person and both felt a spark.
I am really enjoying myself, but I am also, I don't know -- nervous? I have no concept of how this is "supposed" to go or how to do it "right." Things feel like they are moving really fast (emotionally -- chatting online for hours and making plans for things to do next month....) and I am cool with just letting that happen, but I am worried that maybe this is too fast? It feels awesome and fun, but I worry that I will get hurt, they will get hurt, or my husband will get hurt.
Also, they keep bringing up that i should share my "needs" when I am comfortable. I feel like I am comfortable sharing just about anything with this person, but I don't know what they mean by "needs." Is this code for setting boundaries around the relationship? Or is it code for talking about what we both like in bed? I just have no idea how to answer this question and I feel like I am missing out on some of the procedures because I am dating someone familiar with polyamory and I am a total newbie!