pfeifdiggy
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Hello all! Happy and thankful I found a good resource and lots of people willingly provide some advice for someone inexperienced in open relationships of any type really. First; background!
I'm a male dating and have been dating girl for 2-1/2 years now. I have been in one committed relationship other than his; my SO dated much more and her last significant relationship was an open one.
We started as a couple that didn't discuss opening up our coupling until about eight months into dating; six months into the relationship she had fallen in love with and slept with a cast mate of a play she was in at the time and she told me three weeks after the fact. a similar situation happened his past September where she and a coworker who had gotten close were intimate while I was on a northwest tour with a band (I am a musician by trade.)
In all of this we are growing closer and communicating in a more intimate way. She also seems generally happier since we've started to explore an open relationship. For me, I've been able to be more honest with her and myself about my feelings and trying to express them more healthily.
And now for the fun part; questions!
-While I am happy for my partner that she can be more of herself, both times she was intimate with others was without my prior knowledge and with no consent from me which can still cause me to be hurt, jealous or angry despite my best efforts. Do any of you have similar feelings at times in your own lives, and what do you to help combat them?
-I never met and/or connected with the first man my partner fell for, I have met and been around the second person she had fallen for and do not like him as a person, even less so after he and her progressed without speaking with me. if you find yourself disliking someone your partner is seeing or wants to see, what are some steps that you've taken in the past?
Thank you for any insight or advice y'all can provide! I knowmay come across selfish or insensitive in my concerns, but I want what is best for both her and I and want to try whatever I can to mKe the beautiful gift I have with my partner te best it can. Thanks again.
I'm a male dating and have been dating girl for 2-1/2 years now. I have been in one committed relationship other than his; my SO dated much more and her last significant relationship was an open one.
We started as a couple that didn't discuss opening up our coupling until about eight months into dating; six months into the relationship she had fallen in love with and slept with a cast mate of a play she was in at the time and she told me three weeks after the fact. a similar situation happened his past September where she and a coworker who had gotten close were intimate while I was on a northwest tour with a band (I am a musician by trade.)
In all of this we are growing closer and communicating in a more intimate way. She also seems generally happier since we've started to explore an open relationship. For me, I've been able to be more honest with her and myself about my feelings and trying to express them more healthily.
And now for the fun part; questions!
-While I am happy for my partner that she can be more of herself, both times she was intimate with others was without my prior knowledge and with no consent from me which can still cause me to be hurt, jealous or angry despite my best efforts. Do any of you have similar feelings at times in your own lives, and what do you to help combat them?
-I never met and/or connected with the first man my partner fell for, I have met and been around the second person she had fallen for and do not like him as a person, even less so after he and her progressed without speaking with me. if you find yourself disliking someone your partner is seeing or wants to see, what are some steps that you've taken in the past?
Thank you for any insight or advice y'all can provide! I knowmay come across selfish or insensitive in my concerns, but I want what is best for both her and I and want to try whatever I can to mKe the beautiful gift I have with my partner te best it can. Thanks again.