I grew up in a really abusive home where I was taught emotions were bad and caused problems for no good reason. Why bring it up? Especially when it could hurt or complicate things for someone. I'd rather just deal and move forward. Otherwise they may just feel I'm not worth it and leave altogether. Those are my real thought processes and I'm starting to learn that it does way more harm than good.
I am so sorry. I know that "unlearning" abuse related habits can be hard.
Keep trying though. Be honest and forthright with Cuba. Find out what you want to know. Risk learning that Cuba finds you worthwhile as a whole person -- even WITH emotions.
hugs
Galagirl