vinsanity0
Active member
Yes, inclusiveness helps. But I cannot tell you how EXHAUSTING it is to have to CONSTANTLY be explaining this stuff, and usually it falls on deaf ears. Just look at this thread. Sometimes you just want to be amongst people who TRULY get it, to vent frustrations, to have support, etc. The same is true of women, or LGBTQ people, or religious minorities - whatever outgroup (s) a person may belong to. We need that safe space. I know this board is supposedly inclusive, but just look at this thread of exhibit A to see how oppressive it can be to minorities.
Then again, this thread also cemented my decision to take a break from dating white women. I don't need that power dynamic in intimate partner situations, especially since I have it everywhere else.
You wouldn't have to constantly explain if you just listened to people once in awhile. Nobody here denied white privilege exists. It's just not as simple as you think it is. Yeah, I'm white, but I have absolutely no power in this nationwide system. And two counties with millions of people is not just local. Does our experiences apply to somewhere like Ohio? No, but it is proof that change can happen.
And you are definitely not going to get anywhere calling people racists who are not racist.