For me, this is a difficult one to answer as I don't know many polyamorous people of either/any gender, and I've had comparatively few relationships/sex partners (by choice) over the 3+ decades I've been sexually active.
Regardless, I've never had a problem attracting either offers of sex OR longer-lasting relationships. Like you said about yourself Ravenscroft, I am not drop-dead good-looking and don't have the physique of a supermodel. I guess I'm passably attractive/cute (I look younger than my 50 years) but I don't think looks really play into this nearly as much as personality or attitude. Neither my brother (bi, non-mono) or my sister (straight, mono) have ever wanted for a partner either, so I'm not sure if our genes are responsible somehow.
Moreover, I seem to be the "type" people want to marry - I've had five proposals from men and women both - though I have no idea why this would be. I'm not rich by any means, and am socially phobic, so not a "catch" in most people's eyes.
Is my "luck" in the relationship arena simply because I'm a woman? Are my standards too low? Is it pheromones?
Me aside, my most recent male "ex" has never had any trouble finding casual sex partners, has had a good handful of women obsessed with him, yet has still struggled to conduct a long-term *successful* partnership. I think this is because he is a rather magnetic character but doesn't have the skills (or the interest) to sustain a relationship past the initial "rose coloured glasses" phase.
The same could be said for my first love who was a veritable sex magnet in his youth and for quite some time after that, but each relationship "failed" after a few short years.
So I'm not sure I'd generalise by claiming men cannot find sexual partners with the ease women often do, but I do believe that (many, not all) men for whom sex is easy to come by, do not necessarily develop the skills or personality necessary to translate that into successful lasting relationships.
I would also concur with MajorMerrick(?) who said that (erstwhile "straight") women's sexuality tends to be more fluid, which opens the door (no pun intended) for a wider range of potential sexual partners. Also agree that most women use loving touch quite naturally with each other, which, given the right conditions, means they are generally more open to wider range of sexual experiences.
Regardless, I've never had a problem attracting either offers of sex OR longer-lasting relationships. Like you said about yourself Ravenscroft, I am not drop-dead good-looking and don't have the physique of a supermodel. I guess I'm passably attractive/cute (I look younger than my 50 years) but I don't think looks really play into this nearly as much as personality or attitude. Neither my brother (bi, non-mono) or my sister (straight, mono) have ever wanted for a partner either, so I'm not sure if our genes are responsible somehow.
Moreover, I seem to be the "type" people want to marry - I've had five proposals from men and women both - though I have no idea why this would be. I'm not rich by any means, and am socially phobic, so not a "catch" in most people's eyes.
Is my "luck" in the relationship arena simply because I'm a woman? Are my standards too low? Is it pheromones?
Me aside, my most recent male "ex" has never had any trouble finding casual sex partners, has had a good handful of women obsessed with him, yet has still struggled to conduct a long-term *successful* partnership. I think this is because he is a rather magnetic character but doesn't have the skills (or the interest) to sustain a relationship past the initial "rose coloured glasses" phase.
The same could be said for my first love who was a veritable sex magnet in his youth and for quite some time after that, but each relationship "failed" after a few short years.
So I'm not sure I'd generalise by claiming men cannot find sexual partners with the ease women often do, but I do believe that (many, not all) men for whom sex is easy to come by, do not necessarily develop the skills or personality necessary to translate that into successful lasting relationships.
I would also concur with MajorMerrick(?) who said that (erstwhile "straight") women's sexuality tends to be more fluid, which opens the door (no pun intended) for a wider range of potential sexual partners. Also agree that most women use loving touch quite naturally with each other, which, given the right conditions, means they are generally more open to wider range of sexual experiences.