NeverMoreMonkey
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I was hoping to see how other people crossed this bridge with their fam/friends/work as far as when you first told people, or how you tell new people. How you handled judgement, or utter objection in the worst case scenerio.
Personally, my mom and step dad were poly together most of my life. So telling them about it wasn't a big deal. They just shared their advice, and what mistakes they had made.
My husbands family are extremely (can't stress this enough) conservative. After four years my father in law still gripes about the fact I don't look like a white bread conformist. Husbands mom is ultra Christian and believes with utter certainty that everyone else is goin to hell if they aren't also Christian (no offense to religious people here!)
I don't see them EVER coming to terms with the idea we have a non-monogamous lifestyle. That they will insist our marriage is broken (prob because of me. They think the sun shines out my husbands ass)
With our relationship we are still keeping things low key and trying to not draw attention yet. Telling anyone isn't in our immediate future but eventually someone will notice me out with bf and come to the conclusion I must be cheating on husband or as a group we will feel ready to discuss.
Also. I haven't asked bf how he feels yet about how open he is to the idea of the general public knowing he is a bf to a married woman.
Personally, my mom and step dad were poly together most of my life. So telling them about it wasn't a big deal. They just shared their advice, and what mistakes they had made.
My husbands family are extremely (can't stress this enough) conservative. After four years my father in law still gripes about the fact I don't look like a white bread conformist. Husbands mom is ultra Christian and believes with utter certainty that everyone else is goin to hell if they aren't also Christian (no offense to religious people here!)
I don't see them EVER coming to terms with the idea we have a non-monogamous lifestyle. That they will insist our marriage is broken (prob because of me. They think the sun shines out my husbands ass)
With our relationship we are still keeping things low key and trying to not draw attention yet. Telling anyone isn't in our immediate future but eventually someone will notice me out with bf and come to the conclusion I must be cheating on husband or as a group we will feel ready to discuss.
Also. I haven't asked bf how he feels yet about how open he is to the idea of the general public knowing he is a bf to a married woman.
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