Greetings as I am completely new here and thrilled there is a forum of like minded people!
One of my biggest issues with my lifestyle is the fact I really have nobody outside of my relationships themselves to talk to. I do have friends who know about how we live, but they seem skeptical and even disapproving. Believing I am endangering my marriage an am treading dangerous waters. So I feel bottled up. Like I want to tell everyone how wonderfully happy I am and I can't because others will judge me...
My husband and I have been together 10 years this past July. We have always been open. But rarely took the opportunity. And any encounter was strictly sex and never went beyond that. However, this past winter, he came back from a week long trip having met a girl that he was obviously developing feelings for. They talked and texted regularly. I fought jealousy, confusion, concern that things between us would change. And change they did. He was more loving with me. Attentive and communicative. He was renewed and happy. In love with two women and on top of the world. We talked about this new possibility and came to the understanding that even if we loved other people, we would never stop loving each other. So began our journey.
The summer has been a roller coaster. We have been in and out of smaller relationships that fizzled out. His first real relationship faded. It was very civil and we all still speak fondly of each other and to each other. Currently he has one woman that he is totally head over heels for. And she for him. And she has become like a sister to me. I found a wonderful relationship of my own that is so full of love and light. And yet another with a man who had been a family friend for years and had unrequited feelings for me. That was unexpected. But returned. I was tentative about that relationship because of our friendship. But it felt right and so far it has been healing for both of us.
See, I have a horrible self image due to a previous relationship several years ago. Abuse of all types. Sexual, Physical, Emotional. But right now it feels like I can't help but love myself. I am surrounded by so much love. My husband also had so many difficulties sharing his feelings. And now he is no longer hidden.
I guess my biggest concerns that I want help with in this forum is how to balance all this. How not to burn myself out as I have three hearts to juggle. As well as my own.
What are some things I need to be careful of? What problems might arise where I need to immediately open up communication lines?
How do you handle this in the public eye?
Thank you and I'm looking forward to sharing and reading others stories.
One of my biggest issues with my lifestyle is the fact I really have nobody outside of my relationships themselves to talk to. I do have friends who know about how we live, but they seem skeptical and even disapproving. Believing I am endangering my marriage an am treading dangerous waters. So I feel bottled up. Like I want to tell everyone how wonderfully happy I am and I can't because others will judge me...
My husband and I have been together 10 years this past July. We have always been open. But rarely took the opportunity. And any encounter was strictly sex and never went beyond that. However, this past winter, he came back from a week long trip having met a girl that he was obviously developing feelings for. They talked and texted regularly. I fought jealousy, confusion, concern that things between us would change. And change they did. He was more loving with me. Attentive and communicative. He was renewed and happy. In love with two women and on top of the world. We talked about this new possibility and came to the understanding that even if we loved other people, we would never stop loving each other. So began our journey.
The summer has been a roller coaster. We have been in and out of smaller relationships that fizzled out. His first real relationship faded. It was very civil and we all still speak fondly of each other and to each other. Currently he has one woman that he is totally head over heels for. And she for him. And she has become like a sister to me. I found a wonderful relationship of my own that is so full of love and light. And yet another with a man who had been a family friend for years and had unrequited feelings for me. That was unexpected. But returned. I was tentative about that relationship because of our friendship. But it felt right and so far it has been healing for both of us.
See, I have a horrible self image due to a previous relationship several years ago. Abuse of all types. Sexual, Physical, Emotional. But right now it feels like I can't help but love myself. I am surrounded by so much love. My husband also had so many difficulties sharing his feelings. And now he is no longer hidden.
I guess my biggest concerns that I want help with in this forum is how to balance all this. How not to burn myself out as I have three hearts to juggle. As well as my own.
What are some things I need to be careful of? What problems might arise where I need to immediately open up communication lines?
How do you handle this in the public eye?
Thank you and I'm looking forward to sharing and reading others stories.