coffeewalls
New member
hi there
New to the forum & new to the life style. saying hi
just a quick question to make sure this is the right forum for me:
My wife (38F) and I (41M) have been together for roughly 15 years. During that time we grew closer and closer as companions but further and further apart as lovers.
We are genuinely still in love. We don't want to blow up a mostly-perfect marriage over a lack of sex. So we decided to try an open marriage first.
We made up some basic rules (no lovers either of us knows in "real life", always safe, never in our home, etc.) we felt were intuitive. However, in researching, one rules seems ... let's call it "in conflict" ... with what ive been reading about with open marriages. We've decided not to share anything about our activities with the other, keeping all aspects as clandestine as possible.
Basically I'm asking, is this still the right forum for me? Does this still constitute Polyamory or something else like "mutually assured cheating?*"
thanks in advance!
me
*You know i actually think "M.A.C."ing could be a thing if it isn't already... i'm calling it...
New to the forum & new to the life style. saying hi
just a quick question to make sure this is the right forum for me:
My wife (38F) and I (41M) have been together for roughly 15 years. During that time we grew closer and closer as companions but further and further apart as lovers.
We are genuinely still in love. We don't want to blow up a mostly-perfect marriage over a lack of sex. So we decided to try an open marriage first.
We made up some basic rules (no lovers either of us knows in "real life", always safe, never in our home, etc.) we felt were intuitive. However, in researching, one rules seems ... let's call it "in conflict" ... with what ive been reading about with open marriages. We've decided not to share anything about our activities with the other, keeping all aspects as clandestine as possible.
Basically I'm asking, is this still the right forum for me? Does this still constitute Polyamory or something else like "mutually assured cheating?*"
thanks in advance!
me
*You know i actually think "M.A.C."ing could be a thing if it isn't already... i'm calling it...