I think I might have made a mistake. I've been in an open relationship for quite a while and all has been good. I had a lover for a while, then he went and got married. It's been several months and I wasn't really looking when I met Rick at a Five Rhythms class. We had danced together before and it was fun, but this time, whoa.. it was so intense! I'm very selective about lovers, I choose carefully and I was intrigued. I asked him if he wanted to spend more time with me. We met at his place and shared a fruit smoothie and talked for a bit.
I wasn't sure when to tell him that I had a primary relationship. I asked him about family and he mentioned kids but no S.O. He asked me about kids, but didn't ask about my relationship status.
The attraction was palpable. I was so powerfully drawn to him and.. the sex was amazing. He would be a perfect second lover.
Afterwards, that's when he asked if I had a BF. I was honest, told him that I was in an open relationship. He was a little upset, and he clearly doesn't want to see me again.
Ooops. Should I have told him before the sex? If it was important why didn't he ask? When is the right time to bring that up? And how do you handle a rejection based solely on that when all other factors are good?
I wasn't sure when to tell him that I had a primary relationship. I asked him about family and he mentioned kids but no S.O. He asked me about kids, but didn't ask about my relationship status.
The attraction was palpable. I was so powerfully drawn to him and.. the sex was amazing. He would be a perfect second lover.
Afterwards, that's when he asked if I had a BF. I was honest, told him that I was in an open relationship. He was a little upset, and he clearly doesn't want to see me again.
Ooops. Should I have told him before the sex? If it was important why didn't he ask? When is the right time to bring that up? And how do you handle a rejection based solely on that when all other factors are good?