itsnowornever
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So, my husband and I have been married for 7 years and together for nearly 10. We have been involved in BDSM in the past, he has allowed me to do adult entertainment work and has supported every decision I have made. We have been through hell and back together and survived every fire ball my family has thrown at us...and I just dropped one hell of package on his lap.
I miss the BDSM aspect of our lives. I have been missing it for quite some time, and for the last year or so have been quite despondent over it...and haven't been able to talk to him about it. I finally did. Through research I have found that I also wouldn't mind opening up our relationship. I feel solid with "us" and honestly, would love for him to find someone that can give him what I can't, and on the flip side find someone to give me what he can't.
I want to find a Dom, I want him to find a sub...we can't work together in that aspect...we have tried, it doesn't work. I think he also needs to find a girl that can do what he wants---I am very much the ass kicker in the family...I am not a "girly girl" and he so badly wants me to be dressy and girlie...he knew that's not what I was when we got together, and loves me in jeans or a skirt...but I know he wants to spoil me in that way...and I dont let him. I try, but I"m miserable. I know all this sound stupid...but he needs someone to be girly for him...and I need someone to be hard for me. Does this make any sense? Probably not. But it does to us.
We have talked about opening our relationship at length lately. Talked about limits, reasons why, reasons why not, the "whos" and "whats"...and now we are venturing in.
I miss the BDSM aspect of our lives. I have been missing it for quite some time, and for the last year or so have been quite despondent over it...and haven't been able to talk to him about it. I finally did. Through research I have found that I also wouldn't mind opening up our relationship. I feel solid with "us" and honestly, would love for him to find someone that can give him what I can't, and on the flip side find someone to give me what he can't.
I want to find a Dom, I want him to find a sub...we can't work together in that aspect...we have tried, it doesn't work. I think he also needs to find a girl that can do what he wants---I am very much the ass kicker in the family...I am not a "girly girl" and he so badly wants me to be dressy and girlie...he knew that's not what I was when we got together, and loves me in jeans or a skirt...but I know he wants to spoil me in that way...and I dont let him. I try, but I"m miserable. I know all this sound stupid...but he needs someone to be girly for him...and I need someone to be hard for me. Does this make any sense? Probably not. But it does to us.
We have talked about opening our relationship at length lately. Talked about limits, reasons why, reasons why not, the "whos" and "whats"...and now we are venturing in.