River
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Yes, K. She's on it.
Perhaps the greatest "spiritual growth" hurdle most us must leap, eventually, is the one which allows us to (paradoxically?) accept all of ourselves, just as we are.
When we see though the game, the game dissolves. Something else takes its place
To be quite honest, though, River - I don't understand much of what you write on this subject. But I think that this is likely a matter of communicating our conceptualizations. I will often feel like I have this idea in my head, but when I try to explain it to someone else the words I have at my disposal seem inadequate to the task.
"I don't feel frightened not knowing things, by being lost in a mysterious universe without any purpose, which is the way it really is as far as I can tell."
I think life can have meaning because we can assign meaning to our own lives.
In Buddhism they call this stage in the awakening process "the dark night of the soul."
Every relationship - whether poly or mono, romantic or platonic - is a learning opportunity for self-growth. That is why we are not alone here on the planet. it is through others that we learn about ourselves, and if we pay attention to the dynamics we create, we will have a lot to learn. Polyamory shouldn't be up on a pedestal above other approaches or types.
Hi Carson
The dark night of the soul was originally a Christian concept (though universal in its application), being a poem and commentary written by St John of the Cross, a Spanish Dominican monk, in the 16th Century.
In the traditional (i.e. Christian mysticism) sense, the dark night of the soul was not so much challenging beliefs but more about the painfulness of the journey to union with God and the loneliness being suspended above earth but below heaven, cut off from comfort and solace from both sources. A distinct part of the phenomenon is the feeling of having spiritually died and are in spiritual Limbo (before eventually being reborn).
/Adam