I have read two posts on this forum about HPV but I had to make another one...so I'm sorry. Here is the deal... I am extremely frightened that someone I want to enter into a relationship with (this will absolutely be my very first polyamory relationship) will categorically not want to enter into it with me because TEN years ago I got low risk hpv from a partner... I had a single small wart... which to be honest was in a very unusual place (which to be honest sometimes makes me question but I'm not a doctor so obviously I believe them)... I got it removed right away... ten years ago... and it has never once come back. I have been to FIVE different doctors and the sexual health clinic donzens of times asking about it... that was how psychologically scarring it was/is for me... that relationship ended in 2010.... and I have only had one other relationship since and that was in 2012.... again that's how scarring... and that man also had hpv (and told me)... I have since had the vaccine ( I actually got it right after I got the wart... as if it really mattered that much anymore... but at least I've got a few other strains covered)... of the five docs I've seen 4 out of the 5 have played if off like it is no big deal... telling me it is like catching the cold and that after 2 years if the warts have never come back it basically doesn't matter anymore and I have no obligation to anyone... however one told me a very different story... the people at the sexual health clinic are the same telling me to just go about my life... however I feel like it is my duty to let people know even though it has been so long because it is a virus and technically it does live in your body forever... I have also had a test which came back negative (I honestly am not sure what kind of test it was because it was not the one you can get with your pap.. and I was supposed to pay for it but the doc I saw did it for free because I was literally constantly coming in about it for no reason)... anyways I guess what I am asking is how do I tell this person? I'm fairly certain I will obviously be rejected as even if he was willing to take the risk himself he probably doesn't want to risk his other partners...it is seriously so distressing to me I just want to live a life and I can't out of constant fear of rejection... because people don't know about it... it's not one you learn about or think about... and most people don't realize at all that they most likely have at the very least come across it... they think well I never saw anything so I'm fine... I don't really know how to go about bringing it up in a calm manner... or even if I should... I mean I will... because I feel like that is the responsible thing to do even though people keep telling me otherwise. What would you all say/ recommend I do? Do you have experience with this or a situation like this?
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