Hi everyone!
I'm new here, so please excuse my potential confusion with all the terms and stuff. I just need someone to discuss my status with.
I'm in a poly relationship with two people, one male, one female (I'm f). We are a thrice (I like that term better than anything else i've heard so far). They were a couple when I met him, but after a few dates with just him I wanted to meet the lovely lady he was always talking about. We soon found out, that we (the other girl and me) like each other more than expected (we're both bi, so that helps in that situation). So now we are in this triangular thingy. Which works pretty well. We don't have a hierarchy per se, there are other people involved too, but not in our thrice situation (our between two parts of the thrice).
The only thing is, they live together, I live 6000 miles away. I was working there when we met. We are visiting a lot, talking on the phone... long distance is never easy.
My current problem is, that I feel like the 6th toe. Its nice to have but also...unnecessary. Has anyone else dealt with not feeling like a second grade partner when its not the arrangement but an external factor (like the distance) that is causing it? We talked about it, but we haven't found a solution to it.
I would love to hear what you think about this situation.
love,
Crona
I'm new here, so please excuse my potential confusion with all the terms and stuff. I just need someone to discuss my status with.
I'm in a poly relationship with two people, one male, one female (I'm f). We are a thrice (I like that term better than anything else i've heard so far). They were a couple when I met him, but after a few dates with just him I wanted to meet the lovely lady he was always talking about. We soon found out, that we (the other girl and me) like each other more than expected (we're both bi, so that helps in that situation). So now we are in this triangular thingy. Which works pretty well. We don't have a hierarchy per se, there are other people involved too, but not in our thrice situation (our between two parts of the thrice).
The only thing is, they live together, I live 6000 miles away. I was working there when we met. We are visiting a lot, talking on the phone... long distance is never easy.
My current problem is, that I feel like the 6th toe. Its nice to have but also...unnecessary. Has anyone else dealt with not feeling like a second grade partner when its not the arrangement but an external factor (like the distance) that is causing it? We talked about it, but we haven't found a solution to it.
I would love to hear what you think about this situation.
love,
Crona