FallenAngelina
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My mother was right, after all:
"You've done the deed with more people than 95 percent of your peers."
"You've done the deed with more people than 95 percent of your peers."
I don't get the over 18 thing, but it doesn't look like it makes a lot of difference to me...
I thought that was a strange cut-off point, too. My number is quite above that and I've been in several long-term relationships, had a monogamous marriage for almost 12 years, and had long periods of no sex with anyone, in my lifetime.PS. Curious, the scale only goes to 55 - my friend VV hit double that before she graduated from college!
I thought that was a strange cut-off point, too. .., I mean, I've had sex with lots of people, but -- as an example... if you look at my age (55) and how long I've been sexually active (since I was 14), that is 41 years of having sex. Even with a dry spell here and there, it's not unreasonable to say that someone my age who is attractive and has been having sex for 41 years could've had sex with an average of just two people per year - and that would mean 82 sex partners. Even if I did not start having sex until 18, that would be 37 years of sex and potentially 74 partners at two per year. If the average was one person per year since I was 18, then 37sex partners would also not be wildly unfathomable.
When I input 82 partners for my age, it says I've been with more than 98% of my peers. Comes up the same percentage for 74 partners. Now, if I use the highest number they've got on the scale, 55, as my number of sex partners, it still says I've fucked more people than 98% of my peers have! If I input 37, I'm still up there at more than 95%! ...
How on earth would you know how many people you have had sex with?
Laughany of you "not so average" women can feel free to give me a heads up when you're in or around santa fe.
Now I'm just thinking that the people whom they surveyed are not really my peers! Come on, I came of age in the 70s when free love and hippies were still a thing, and then disco came on the scene and gave us even more opportunities for random sex, and all the while Cosmo told us young women to go for it. And then I was in my 20s in the 1980s and it was all about having fun and getting laid. I really don't understand these numbers. Did everyone my age get married right out of high school??? Sheesh!
How on earth would you know how many people you have had sex with?
Heh. I think I like that definition too (though I'm at best indifferent to situations where it isn't inappropriate to orgasm ).A friend of a friend had a definition - "you're having sex if it is not inappropriate to orgasm." I've always liked that.
The definition, as well as situations where it's not inappropriate to orgasm
So, you can count yourself as a partner or not, depending on whether you view masturbation as sex or not.
I thought that was a strange cut-off point, too. My number is quite above that and I've been in several long-term relationships, had a monogamous marriage for almost 12 years, and had long periods of no sex with anyone, in my lifetime.
If one is single most of their life, and any long-term mono relationships aren't really too long-lasting, and there's a period in one's life where going to bars and partying is a regular thing at least 2-3 nights a week for quite some time, there are bound to be plenty one-night stands and lots of short-term flings in one's history. I mean, I've had sex with lots of people, but -- as an example... if you look at my age (55) and how long I've been sexually active (since I was 14), that is 41 years of having sex. Even with a dry spell here and there, it's not unreasonable to say that someone my age who is attractive and has been having sex for 41 years could've had sex with an average of just two people per year - and that would mean 82 sex partners. Even if I did not start having sex until 18, that would be 37 years of sex and potentially 74 partners at two per year. If the average was one person per year since I was 18, then 37sex partners would also not be wildly unfathomable.
When I input 82 partners for my age, it says I've been with more than 98% of my peers. Comes up the same percentage for 74 partners. Now, if I use the highest number they've got on the scale, 55, as my number of sex partners, it still says I've fucked more people than 98% of my peers have! If I input 37, I'm still up there at more than 95%!
I am going to see what number gets me to 50% for my age...
Age 55
20 sex partners - I've done the deed with more than 90% of my peers;
15 sex partners - I've done the deed with more than 87% of my peers;
10 sex partners- I've done the deed with more than 79% of my peers;
8 sex partners - I've done the deed with more than 77% of my peers;
5 sex partners - I've done the deed with more than 62% of my peers;
4 sex partners - I've done the deed with more than 54% of my peers; and
3 sex partners - I've done the deed with more than 45% of my peers.
So strange.
Now I'm just thinking that the people whom they surveyed are not really my peers! Come on, I came of age in the 70s when free love and hippies were still a thing, and then disco came on the scene and gave us even more opportunities for random sex, and all the while Cosmo told us young women to go for it. And then I was in my 20s in the 1980s and it was all about having fun and getting laid. I really don't understand these numbers. Did everyone my age get married right out of high school??? Sheesh!
I think I'm about your age. (I'm 59.) I had to estimate too, but I estimated conservatively and still got this: "You've done the deed with more people than basically all of your peers." I don't think that's true. I mean I know some guys are way ahead of me. I know this because they were in my band. I was the sensitive guy who picked the most interesting girl and stayed up all night getting to know her first while the other guys were having sex with two girls at a time and coming out a couple of times to get two more.
The last time someone asked me about this, she asked me if I had any regrets. I told her I regretted all the opportunities I'd missed or passed up.