Hello,
I'm going to apologize in advance since this is going to be a long post.
I think I might be getting myself into a mess. I have two best friends that I'm very close to, and they are married to each other. So the three of us hanging out if very normal. Hanging can often includes some drinking, and sometimes getting rather tipsy or drunk. Well, a few weeks ago I decided that I wanted my best friend to know that I’m bi, I was nervous but she was awesome and was just like “OK, and I totally saw this coming.” which was great. well we all hung out recently and had a fun time and got close to drunk and my bestie started to be more forward than usual. See, she usually get’s a little grabby when tipsy or drunk, and boob grabbing totally happens and neither of us has cared, it’s usually just funny and being silly. But this time around she admitted to me how she thinks everyone is a little bi, and that she herself is definitely into women sometimes.
She has another thing she does which ask her husband, my other best friend, about where the line would be if we got up to naughty stuff. Again nothing new really but that was before I was out about my orientation and she was really giving some in depth examples to her hubby of what we could do and would he care or stop us. Another thing is this conversation all continued after she found out that I had a crush on both her and her hubby before they were together at one point. Considering she’s sometimes an easily jealous women she seemed very at ease and didn’t care about the crushes. I’m just feeling lost and worried that this is just tipsy best friend speech and that all of it is a joke or game to her and that I’m reading into it as something else, or that there's a potential for a poly-amorous relationship. Which I’m very open to and she doesn’t really know that either.
I don’t know how to talk about it to her, either about what’s actually up or what she’s thinking, without possibly ruining or losing a friendship that is so important to me. I just want to know what I should do, but it feels like there’s no good path to take for this. Over all I'm trying to figure out what would be the best and safest course of action to figure out if there's something else going on than just silly teasing or not. And if the best course is to never mention and just leave it be than so be it. I really don't want to make our relationship awkward or lose it all together.
Any advice out there?
I'm going to apologize in advance since this is going to be a long post.
I think I might be getting myself into a mess. I have two best friends that I'm very close to, and they are married to each other. So the three of us hanging out if very normal. Hanging can often includes some drinking, and sometimes getting rather tipsy or drunk. Well, a few weeks ago I decided that I wanted my best friend to know that I’m bi, I was nervous but she was awesome and was just like “OK, and I totally saw this coming.” which was great. well we all hung out recently and had a fun time and got close to drunk and my bestie started to be more forward than usual. See, she usually get’s a little grabby when tipsy or drunk, and boob grabbing totally happens and neither of us has cared, it’s usually just funny and being silly. But this time around she admitted to me how she thinks everyone is a little bi, and that she herself is definitely into women sometimes.
She has another thing she does which ask her husband, my other best friend, about where the line would be if we got up to naughty stuff. Again nothing new really but that was before I was out about my orientation and she was really giving some in depth examples to her hubby of what we could do and would he care or stop us. Another thing is this conversation all continued after she found out that I had a crush on both her and her hubby before they were together at one point. Considering she’s sometimes an easily jealous women she seemed very at ease and didn’t care about the crushes. I’m just feeling lost and worried that this is just tipsy best friend speech and that all of it is a joke or game to her and that I’m reading into it as something else, or that there's a potential for a poly-amorous relationship. Which I’m very open to and she doesn’t really know that either.
I don’t know how to talk about it to her, either about what’s actually up or what she’s thinking, without possibly ruining or losing a friendship that is so important to me. I just want to know what I should do, but it feels like there’s no good path to take for this. Over all I'm trying to figure out what would be the best and safest course of action to figure out if there's something else going on than just silly teasing or not. And if the best course is to never mention and just leave it be than so be it. I really don't want to make our relationship awkward or lose it all together.
Any advice out there?