It's kinda hard to un-see the grooming and coercion once you've seen it. But I can see how it would be easily missed since a lot of these practices have been considered normal and acceptable in various poly communities. Definitely having been the unicorn in the past, it points to a lot of the problems with it.
Here's another take on it from Franklin Veaux that might be worth reading. (I don't always agree with Franklin, but I do agree with this)
Here's another take on it from Franklin Veaux that might be worth reading. (I don't always agree with Franklin, but I do agree with this)