doglover0217
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Hi to anyone who has read any of my other posts! Long story short, I took Red's absence because of work travel as an opportunity to get out. The decision has been incredibly difficult, but our relationship is toxic at this point and if there is anything left to salvage, living separately is the only way (at least that's my opinion. Red will vehemently disagree). I don't necessarily want to break up altogether, but I feel like I can't make any decisions until we have space and reset boundaries.
We started more as a triad but morphed into a V, and we have lived together for a little over 2 years. Blue (the metamour) and I are basically roommates. We don't talk much, and during Red's absence we haven't spent any time together.
I'm moving my things while Blue is at work and Red is on his way back from his trip. I have a letter I've written to Red about my decision, but my question for everyone is what I should communicate to Blue (and when). Blue is married to Red, so the decision very much impacts him in a way that it seems like I'm jumping ship and throwing a lot onto his plate. But at the same time, I'm not sure he knows how toxic and unhealthy my relationship is with Red.
We started more as a triad but morphed into a V, and we have lived together for a little over 2 years. Blue (the metamour) and I are basically roommates. We don't talk much, and during Red's absence we haven't spent any time together.
I'm moving my things while Blue is at work and Red is on his way back from his trip. I have a letter I've written to Red about my decision, but my question for everyone is what I should communicate to Blue (and when). Blue is married to Red, so the decision very much impacts him in a way that it seems like I'm jumping ship and throwing a lot onto his plate. But at the same time, I'm not sure he knows how toxic and unhealthy my relationship is with Red.