PhoenixStGeorge
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The situ is an established marriage, an unusually strong and well formed relationship, without a lot of the drama that goes along with complex situations, but still susceptible to human imperfections and the conflict that can come with that. We've been non monogamous in small and big ways for a long time, but are two months into our first real poly relationship.
This woman we've started dating is amazing, perfect for us and perfect for a triad. None of us make a ton of new friends, fairly introverted. So now that I'm falling for this woman I'm also gaining a new best friend.
Here's the rub:
I get annoyed with my husband about something and go to talk about it with my girlfriend because she's one of the only people I talk with about this anything serious or elation ship related. Of course, somewhere in that conversation there's a line I think I keep crossing that isn't fair to them, unfair to him because I'm bitching about him to his girlfriend and showing (at least my perspective on) his worst side, meanwhile unfair to her because she then has to do the work (she says this comes naturally to her) to separate their development as a couple from our couple bullshit etc (you get the picture).
SO..... Where do I draw the line between my close relationship with my girlfriend and being sensitive to my husband-and-girlfriend's relationship?
Please help if you've got words of wisdom!
This woman we've started dating is amazing, perfect for us and perfect for a triad. None of us make a ton of new friends, fairly introverted. So now that I'm falling for this woman I'm also gaining a new best friend.
Here's the rub:
I get annoyed with my husband about something and go to talk about it with my girlfriend because she's one of the only people I talk with about this anything serious or elation ship related. Of course, somewhere in that conversation there's a line I think I keep crossing that isn't fair to them, unfair to him because I'm bitching about him to his girlfriend and showing (at least my perspective on) his worst side, meanwhile unfair to her because she then has to do the work (she says this comes naturally to her) to separate their development as a couple from our couple bullshit etc (you get the picture).
SO..... Where do I draw the line between my close relationship with my girlfriend and being sensitive to my husband-and-girlfriend's relationship?
Please help if you've got words of wisdom!