Omigosh, I just spit Diet Coke all over my keyboard!
Well the reason I started this discussion was to try and help us be Mono/Poly. Outside of the help here, it's been next to impossible for me to create any usable middle ground for either of us. So we both respect each other's style, but she's trying to get me to be mono and I'm trying to tell her how it is that I think poly in an attempt to see if she could either:You've put a lot of effort into explaining how open minded you are, but you have not been able to see your girlfriend's desire to be mono as a valid, healthy, honorable option for her. While claiming to be open minded, you have actually been very closed minded about the lifestyle choices other people make that are different from the one you have chosen for yourself. People who are truly open minded see the value in all lifestyle choices, including monogamy. They respect the lifestyle choices others make for themselves, even when different from their own.
Hahahahaha, man you are hilarious! I like it. And by the way, I kind of am in a castle. I live in a big house on top of a mountain, gated, with a full view from Belize to Nicaragua. It's the life (snorkeling, scuba diving, white sand beaches, parasailing, ziplining, monkeys, toucans, iguanas, parrots, jungle, fishing, resorts, restaurants, imported american food supermarkets, excellent healthcare at costs that would cause your dick to drop off in disbelief (like $6 to see a doctor and get medicine), and did I mention I have a live-in nanny, cook, housekeeper that mops, sweeps, three times a day, laundry, errands, cooks every meal, and takes care of the kids when necessary all for less than two bills a month? yep...I think good for you if you want to stay in America! More for me ).I say, go for it, evanevans. you deserve to be King of your own Castle, even if said Castle exists only in your own mind. Seriously. I may sound like I'm making fun of you, but I only want good things for you and nothing bad. Now go out there and make it happen! I don't think there is anything anybody on this forum can help you with that you can't figure out for yourself. And if your wife is too stupid to know a good thing when she has it, she deserves to go back to her family and a life devoid of a mature male provider and the free orgasms that accompany.
I don't really understand your English. Sorry. It sounds like you are answering a question I asked you but you didn't quote it so I really don't understand the context of what you are saying.To not keep you guessing evan: Because of the uniqueness of you and us all the poly-hood out there, I guess. Not that I want to convince you of the strangeness of such an idea (I read about some discussion going on in another thread already), but you won't find that many people on here who share your point of view in this regard.
Have to say that your life story is quite ... notable could be the right word *scratches head*. You have got your way of finding some extreme characters and persons for sure as it seems.
Hahahaha why? lol
evanevans said:It would be rare that they find someone as mature as myself...
evanevans said:...where I am the one as the most mature pillar of strength in the house, than I cannot have my place as that support system threatened..
If a "real poly guru" shows up then you are toast dude. Speaking for myself, I am almost hopeful that this happens...I would like to see the implosion of your psyche - I'm halfway tempted to fly down and try it for myself - 'cept I'm a girl. (True admission - this bi-girl LOVES the straight ladies... to be fair, they like me too...all the lovin' minus that male ego bullshit...)evanevans said:a real poly guru
evanevans said:I have been with enough women to know how important it is to keep them in the zone.
evanevans said:I'm very good at providing that for them. That is one of the attractions women have with me.
It's ok. I knew someone would be too sensitive and be offended by my post. But that's not how I meant it. So we'll just have to rack it up to you having a different understanding about my words than I do. I'm sure everyone's not interested in us spending their evening trying to get you to be compassionate with me and understand where I'm really coming from. I see you are reactionary, that you think this is an alpha male thing (which it's not), have a problem with that, and want to express your disdain. Let's move on.I'm sorry, I just have to chime in at this point after biting my tongue for several posts and letting others do the talking.
(True admission - this bi-girl LOVES the straight ladies... to be fair, they like me too...all the lovin' minus that male ego bullshit)
It's ok. I knew someone would be too sensitive and be offended by my post. But that's not how I meant it. So we'll just have to rack it up to you having a different understanding about my words than I do. And I'[m not interested in boring everyone with trying to get you to be compassionate with me and understand where I'm really coming from. I see you are reactionary, think this is an alpha male thing (which it's not), have a problem with that, and want to express your disdain. Let's move on.
It's ok. I knew someone would be too sensitive and be offended by my post. But that's not how I meant it. So we'll just have to rack it up to you having a different understanding about my words than I do. And I'[m not interested in boring everyone with trying to get you to be compassionate with me and understand where I'm really coming from. I see you are reactionary, think this is an alpha male thing (which it's not), have a problem with that, and want to express your disdain. Let's move on.
This thread is about me, for me, and at most someday for someone else in a similar spot. If you aren't interested, you move on. I'm here to discuss what's very important to two people on this earth, and this thread is for those who care to help, or reflect. If you want to express you don't care, I think you should just do so privately since that's not helpful to anyone needing help.Allow me to translate: People are trying to tell you that you are full of yourself.
... Too bad females don't find intelligence as sexy as money and power...
Actually, some of us do. What need do I have of money and power? I have enough of that on my own. A man (or woman) that I can actually have an intelligent conversation with?...priceless!
JaneQ