I am happily married to the man of my dreams. I've been with my husband for 9 yrs. He has 3 children, I have one, all from previous marriages. I entered our relationship as bisexual. He has always been sensitive and understanding of this, knowing it is one of my threads, which make up who I am.
Over the course of our relationship we have changed boundaries with our sexual encounters many times based off trust of that/those individual(s). Some got more fun than others, in a sense.
Being bisexual is difficult, as many women don't feel comfortable engaging with someone who's husband is a stranger to them, so we ultimately became swingers, not really caring for other man aspect, but allowing me to be with another female. We have been living this lifestyle for quite some time now, and are until recently...Everything is now changing.
Years ago we began having same room sex with my close friend and her husband. They ended up divorcing, for reasons outside our encounters. She is still single and visits my husband and I often, all us together, as well, as just the 2 of us girls. She has been my "girlfriend" for 6 years. 2 years ago, our close male friend took an interest in her, so we brought him in to the fun. 1 year ago, they fizzled out, leaving my husband and I back with my "girlfriend", not wanting to loose our close male friend we continued (MFM), keeping our FMF and FF relationship separate.
It has been 3 years of MFM, and close male friend and I have fallen in love. My husband understands, as he is his best friend as well. They ride motorcycles together, coach softball, and he has comforted our family during many hard times. We all cant pinpoint how we fell in love, but I am in love with 2 men, and we all feel very confused as to how to make this work.
Jealousy has started brewing as to him finding other women or a girlfriend and us losing him, as well as, jealousy on his side from my husband and I still swinging. It feels very complex and fragile.
Have we hit a peak? Feels like we need to stop this and deal with the pain of losing each other and the friendship, or somehow evolve. Hearts are getting broken, and we all are getting angry because of confusion. He has 3 kids, we have 4, only one of them knows about our arrangement our 16 yo, and only because she is LGBTQ advocate in high school, and bisexual herself. Many of our close friends know about us, and they are so supportive, even joke that they're brother husbands.
There has been talk of becoming a "closed Vee" (I'm not familiar with a lot of the terminology). There's a lot of feelings between the 3 of us, and we don't know where to go now.
We are SO relieved to find this forum. Of course, there is a lot missing from our story, but at least now we know we are not alone.
Over the course of our relationship we have changed boundaries with our sexual encounters many times based off trust of that/those individual(s). Some got more fun than others, in a sense.
Being bisexual is difficult, as many women don't feel comfortable engaging with someone who's husband is a stranger to them, so we ultimately became swingers, not really caring for other man aspect, but allowing me to be with another female. We have been living this lifestyle for quite some time now, and are until recently...Everything is now changing.
Years ago we began having same room sex with my close friend and her husband. They ended up divorcing, for reasons outside our encounters. She is still single and visits my husband and I often, all us together, as well, as just the 2 of us girls. She has been my "girlfriend" for 6 years. 2 years ago, our close male friend took an interest in her, so we brought him in to the fun. 1 year ago, they fizzled out, leaving my husband and I back with my "girlfriend", not wanting to loose our close male friend we continued (MFM), keeping our FMF and FF relationship separate.
It has been 3 years of MFM, and close male friend and I have fallen in love. My husband understands, as he is his best friend as well. They ride motorcycles together, coach softball, and he has comforted our family during many hard times. We all cant pinpoint how we fell in love, but I am in love with 2 men, and we all feel very confused as to how to make this work.
Jealousy has started brewing as to him finding other women or a girlfriend and us losing him, as well as, jealousy on his side from my husband and I still swinging. It feels very complex and fragile.
Have we hit a peak? Feels like we need to stop this and deal with the pain of losing each other and the friendship, or somehow evolve. Hearts are getting broken, and we all are getting angry because of confusion. He has 3 kids, we have 4, only one of them knows about our arrangement our 16 yo, and only because she is LGBTQ advocate in high school, and bisexual herself. Many of our close friends know about us, and they are so supportive, even joke that they're brother husbands.
There has been talk of becoming a "closed Vee" (I'm not familiar with a lot of the terminology). There's a lot of feelings between the 3 of us, and we don't know where to go now.
We are SO relieved to find this forum. Of course, there is a lot missing from our story, but at least now we know we are not alone.