Hi, I'm not versed on the exact terminology yet so bear with me. I've been reading the site for about a week now. I'm 35, and have been married to my husband for 14 years. My husband and I were in the swing lifestyle for a few years but we always felt like we were looking for more than a cold hookup. We've made some great true friends along the way though. We met a couple at a swingers party last year, and we decided to go out and see how we all clicked. Well, from the first date, we knew we felt something more than swinging usually entails. We were all seeking more of a relationship. We continued seeing each other and we've formed a poly relationship. We are all friends and we have romantic relationships too. The men do not have a sexual relationship with each other, but are good friends. We consider our group of 4 to be a closed group for now, we still have lots of building to do before we consider adding anyone to our little family. We go out together as a group, we spend family time with our kids, but we keep the relationship strictly as a friendship in front of them for now. They aren't old enough to understand anything else right now. We have a great time when we go out as adults, we all go to dinner or drinks or whatever, then we go to separate rooms for the night. Me with the other husband and my husband with the other wife. It's been easy and drama free. We are all falling for each other and that's been different but mostly totally natural. We seem to be life long friends that have been looking for each other. We have had family meetings if issues come up, and we've dealt with them. I'm looking forward to where this relationship takes us in the future. I think our open communication has already given us a good start!