SchrodingersCat
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No dice. I'm incredibly terrible at joke getting. In fact, I struggle with most things that are generally considered obvious. But I'm *awesome* at making simple things complicated...
I don't like to waste time online/texting because too often I've met someone and had zero chemistry or attraction.
If I had great online chemistry with someone but no chemistry in person, I'd just continue the relationship online rather than throw it away altogether.
Of course, I'm fully aware that I'm a weird one, and the above would only work with equally weird people, but I do think my long-distance SOs are the same type as me.
Frankly, I regard people who say they're "in love" with someone they've only met online, or that they're "in a relationship" with someone they only see once or twice a year with a good dose of skepticism.
I actually value quality time and physical touch much more than words of affirmation or gifts. Gifts are of zero importance to me. Words of affirmation may be a bit more important in online relationship than in-person ones, but still not super important.I think it depends on how you relate to people and/or what your love languages are.
Personally, I value quality time and physical touch and need those to establish any kind of meaningful connection. Therefore LDRs/strictly online relationships don't work for me - I could probably make it work to someone I have been established with for a while (for example, if hubby had to move and I couldn't, we could probably make it work), but for new people, no way. Someone who values words of affirmation or gifts could quite easily maintain those kinds of relationships.
I wish there was a "like" button to click.A lot of people say the same thing about people who claim be "in love" or "in a relationship" with two people the same time.
Skepticism is fine, but it's presumptuous to believe you're capable of determining whether someone's feelings are real based your own inability to connect through a given medium.
People tend to misrepresent themselves online, so until you've experienced each other in various situations (both IRL and online) then I don't know how you can KNOW you're in love.
You know, I fairly recently encountered someone who fits that description. It took me a few months of fairly consistent face-to-face time before I could no longer not see the mask slipping. It might have easier to fantasize for longer if the relationship was online or long-distance. But I saw how they moved through the world, how they treated others, how they responded to spontaneous situations, and I realized that what this person said and what they did weren't synched.You mean you've never met someone who misrepresents themselves in person?
You just reminded me of another interesting show, "Who the Bleep Did I Marry?" about people who find they married a serial killer or dated a guy who kept girls in the basement. So yes, it happens IRL too.How many people have found out some deep secret about their life partner, and come to realize that they never knew them at all?