I replied to your first thread, I suppose I should have put it here. But it looks like you guys have it worked out. In that thread, I was just explaining that Cuckolding, like BDSM, has a massive range in terms of what's done. Cuckolding is known for it's extreme humiliation, even though there are aspects of it within the cuckolding community that are far, far tamer.
I agree, cuckolding can have all sorts of different meanings for different people. I think a few posters discussed this at length in one of Aurelies threads, and came to all sorts of conclusions!
We do have that dynamic in our relationship though. It is language that we do use. However it does not go beyond the bedroom. It is a sex thing only, but yes, as far as Aurelie is now concerned, I am her cuckold, and Scott is her Bull/Stud/Dom! I actually now think it is a natural thing for a woman to do, if her partner is not meeting all/any of her sexual needs. It works well, and the three of us are happy with it! It's fun.
Most people think the guy has to be a "sissy" or a "bitch" to enjoy it.
Well, neither of those things apply to me, although some guys are into that. It's not me though.
But the reality is that there only really has to be an acknowledgement that the "bull" fulfills a need the husband "can't" or won't. This can range from the extreme where the wife tells the cuckold he's completely inadequate and she can't get off with him, to the mild where the wife just wants someone with a higher libido. Most times it falls in between. Where the bull is somewhat better endowed and is in general, overall a better sexual partner (Though not a better overall partner)
Can't or Won't? Well for us, a bit of both. I WON'T fufill her BDSM needs, although Scott definitely does. I CAN'T satisfy her sexually like he does, even if I wanted to. Scott is somewhat better endowed (He's huge, and that turns her on) and also a better sexual partner. Aurelie and I are gentle and loving together, and it's good. Scott is forceful, which she prefers, and he can make her orgasm through penetration, and I can't. That means a lot to her. I guess a lot of guys would have a problem admitting that another guy is better for his girl sexually. I just don't! They are amazing together, and he is able to bring out the best of her sexual side.
How couples handle their relationship side also varies widely. Some couples do not humiliate the husband at all, but they only "cuddle" or do tertiary sex acts (Like hand jobs), while the bulk of the actual sex is reserved for the bull. While others have sex like rabbits, and the bull comes over once a week for the "cherry on top". Some even get more kinky and husband has to wear a condom while the bull is allowed to go bareback. (For many cucks, the bull leaving his "card" behind is a huge turn on.) And this can all be done with added "teasing" or humiliation or without. Some couples let the sex acts and less sex with the husband kind of speak for itself (In terms of teasing, the wife simply showing she takes the bull first is more than enough) others do some mild verbal teasing and still others can get extreme with chastity belts and the whole 9 yards
The only humiliation that happens is the pretend type. For example, sometimes, not often, but every now and then, I watch them. Aurelie loves this now, she loves having me there. Anyways, before they start, she will often jerk me off and make me cum very quickly, while Scott watches! Then they will rut for what seems like ages! It's roleplay, but it's based in fact. They no longer have set nights. The four of us are quite integrated now and Scott comes around when he wants to, or when Aurelie wants him! We still make love a lot though, but if Scott has been around, Aurelie and I very rarely make love after, although we do "tertiary" sex acts like oral, and she often teases me when we do this. It's done in a fun loving way though. Aurelie loves it, and so do I! I don't wear a condom and neither does Scott. I don't mind, but this doesn't do anything for me, although going by the things Scott says, he does get off on it I think. We cuddle a lot. She gets her affection from me. When Scott and her have finished, she comes to me, and I just hold her. We both agree that the love thats goes between the two of us at these times is the most intense love either of us have ever felt.