Haven't had anything relevant to say until now...
I second kdt's suggestion about communicating via email. Or at least in some written form. Because of how my first marriage went, when I got involved with Hubby, I was pretty much completely terrified to try talking to him about problems in our relationship. And when I tried, panic would tangle my tongue so I either said something that wasn't quite what I meant, or froze and said nothing at all.
But I'm a writer...The written word is far more comfortable to me. I am able to take time to figure out how to phrase things accurately, and to find the words I need. And if I'm afraid of the other person's reaction, writing out the problem/concern enables me to give them what I've written and walk away until they've read it, so I can get some space to push aside the fear and am able to listen more carefully to their response.
Hubby never *answered* me in writing, but allowing me to write down what I needed to say instead of trying to speak it enabled us to work out some problems that might have otherwise destroyed the relationship because I was too scared to talk to him about them.
I second kdt's suggestion about communicating via email. Or at least in some written form. Because of how my first marriage went, when I got involved with Hubby, I was pretty much completely terrified to try talking to him about problems in our relationship. And when I tried, panic would tangle my tongue so I either said something that wasn't quite what I meant, or froze and said nothing at all.
But I'm a writer...The written word is far more comfortable to me. I am able to take time to figure out how to phrase things accurately, and to find the words I need. And if I'm afraid of the other person's reaction, writing out the problem/concern enables me to give them what I've written and walk away until they've read it, so I can get some space to push aside the fear and am able to listen more carefully to their response.
Hubby never *answered* me in writing, but allowing me to write down what I needed to say instead of trying to speak it enabled us to work out some problems that might have otherwise destroyed the relationship because I was too scared to talk to him about them.