ThisIsWater2
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I have been married for 12 years and am almost a year into my first poly relationship with my friends husband. (All have been open and honest and while we've struggled a little here and there, things have been good.) Last night he shared with me that he recently had a purely sexual experience with someone else whom that I don't know. Up until now we've discussed the possibility of outside relationships but decided neither of us were seeking that.
My husband and I have had an occasional sexual encounter with a separate female friend of ours, (which started prior to my secondary and I getting together). A month ago, I felt like I needed to tell my lover about the I had with my husband and female friend. It has been a non-reciprocal occasional sexual encounter, just something I'm willing to do more for my husbands pleasure at this point than mine. It seems that in my sharing with my secondary about the experience my husband and Inhave had with my friend he understood that to mean I was okay with general sex outside of our mono-poly relationship. I am realizing now that I really am not.
My husband and I can stop seeing my friend sexually, it's only happened once or twice since my lover and I got together. I'm somewhat ambivalent about the female sexual relationship, but I don't think he is interested or particularly capable of having sex with just me and his wife. I am struggling with his interest "polyfuckery." I truly love both him and my husband and am not interested in random sex. His wife is okay with it but his girlfriend isn't - go figure.
Additionally, my husband isn't okay with my lover being in multiple sexual relationships while he and I are together.
Looking for thoughts, experiences, advise, and constructive input!
My husband and I have had an occasional sexual encounter with a separate female friend of ours, (which started prior to my secondary and I getting together). A month ago, I felt like I needed to tell my lover about the I had with my husband and female friend. It has been a non-reciprocal occasional sexual encounter, just something I'm willing to do more for my husbands pleasure at this point than mine. It seems that in my sharing with my secondary about the experience my husband and Inhave had with my friend he understood that to mean I was okay with general sex outside of our mono-poly relationship. I am realizing now that I really am not.
My husband and I can stop seeing my friend sexually, it's only happened once or twice since my lover and I got together. I'm somewhat ambivalent about the female sexual relationship, but I don't think he is interested or particularly capable of having sex with just me and his wife. I am struggling with his interest "polyfuckery." I truly love both him and my husband and am not interested in random sex. His wife is okay with it but his girlfriend isn't - go figure.
Additionally, my husband isn't okay with my lover being in multiple sexual relationships while he and I are together.
Looking for thoughts, experiences, advise, and constructive input!