Orlandobif
Member
Having permission to seek what I need does not mean I have the time, energy, or ability to do so. In fact for me it can create random urges, needs I did not know were important and new complexities. I can be needy in the company of my wife, unsatisfied with activities that were fine for decades, and fussing over things I can't clearly identify.
I was reading a thread about single poly and thought, hot damn!, I could do anything if I were single but that is not true. Poly is still in the way. Complex needs are still in the way. Loneliness would subside as I am generally able to find people to talk and socialize with but who would care for my soul?
For when I envy one situation or another what I want sometimes is to be simple in my needs. I don't really want to spend time I don't have, on needs I don't want, and on transient relationships that are both satisfying and leave my needs even more urgent. Getting what I want can leave an annoying vacuum in my life later. How about you?
I was reading a thread about single poly and thought, hot damn!, I could do anything if I were single but that is not true. Poly is still in the way. Complex needs are still in the way. Loneliness would subside as I am generally able to find people to talk and socialize with but who would care for my soul?
For when I envy one situation or another what I want sometimes is to be simple in my needs. I don't really want to spend time I don't have, on needs I don't want, and on transient relationships that are both satisfying and leave my needs even more urgent. Getting what I want can leave an annoying vacuum in my life later. How about you?