BikerMomma
New member
Hello all,
I have been reading a fair amount about being poly for a while now. I have friends that are poly and it got me to consider what other lifestyles exist out there. But my reasons for wanting a poly lifestyle seem selfish and perhaps not the most mature. I need some advice.
I am currently in a stable monogamous relationship. We have a child together and he helps me with my other children from a previous marriage. He is a great man and father ... but very emotionally lacking, and more recently very limited in physical desire. I feel very lonely. Especially as I am a person that lives very passionately.
I want more in my life. Not just casual friendships but deep lasting relationships. And along those lines I have found myself becoming strongly physically attracted to an old friend of mine. I desperately want to bring this up to my current husband/partner yet can not even begin to find the words to explain what I desire.
I've expressed my needs and the lack in our relationship to him before. He has expressed he is giving me all he can of himself. I don't want to leave this relationship but I just plain need more or we will not survive. Is this the right reasons to seek polyamory? And when considering this I know we need to be honest about how we feel if the other person were to be in a relationship with another as well. THAT scares me, not so much about the idea itself but because I already get SO LITTLE of him now, that would mean less.
I am torn. Am I truly poly or just lonely? How do I tell my husband I desire intimate relationships with others? And what about these fears of him seeking others when I already get so little now?
And why doesn't life come with a manual?!?
I have been reading a fair amount about being poly for a while now. I have friends that are poly and it got me to consider what other lifestyles exist out there. But my reasons for wanting a poly lifestyle seem selfish and perhaps not the most mature. I need some advice.
I am currently in a stable monogamous relationship. We have a child together and he helps me with my other children from a previous marriage. He is a great man and father ... but very emotionally lacking, and more recently very limited in physical desire. I feel very lonely. Especially as I am a person that lives very passionately.
I want more in my life. Not just casual friendships but deep lasting relationships. And along those lines I have found myself becoming strongly physically attracted to an old friend of mine. I desperately want to bring this up to my current husband/partner yet can not even begin to find the words to explain what I desire.
I've expressed my needs and the lack in our relationship to him before. He has expressed he is giving me all he can of himself. I don't want to leave this relationship but I just plain need more or we will not survive. Is this the right reasons to seek polyamory? And when considering this I know we need to be honest about how we feel if the other person were to be in a relationship with another as well. THAT scares me, not so much about the idea itself but because I already get SO LITTLE of him now, that would mean less.
I am torn. Am I truly poly or just lonely? How do I tell my husband I desire intimate relationships with others? And what about these fears of him seeking others when I already get so little now?
And why doesn't life come with a manual?!?