In the blog section people have been writing about how they think and feel about any ethical duty they may have to consider the feelings of a metamour in a cheating situation. Some people feel guilty at the hint of their behavior hurting someone and others feel they have no obligation to someone with whom they have only the most tenuous connection.
I wonder if it could be the difference between Guilt and Shame? If you are raised in a tradition that emphasizes guilt/innocence then what you believe about yourself and your behavior is paramount "I believe I have done wrong so I feel bad even if no one else knows." In contrast people who have a shame/ pride outlook feel that the perception of others is paramount "My people believe I am involved in wrong-doing so I am shamed and feel bad. The opinion of an outsider is of no consequence." Those are stark simplifications but maybe it is a cultural difference rather than an individual emotional/mental difference?
Leetah
Leetah
I wonder if it could be the difference between Guilt and Shame? If you are raised in a tradition that emphasizes guilt/innocence then what you believe about yourself and your behavior is paramount "I believe I have done wrong so I feel bad even if no one else knows." In contrast people who have a shame/ pride outlook feel that the perception of others is paramount "My people believe I am involved in wrong-doing so I am shamed and feel bad. The opinion of an outsider is of no consequence." Those are stark simplifications but maybe it is a cultural difference rather than an individual emotional/mental difference?
Leetah
Leetah