ksandra
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I've recently started seeing someone new (like in the last six weeks recently) I really enjoy spending time with him and I can see this turning into more of a relationship than a casual fling.
My issue is that his other partner drives me up the wall. She isn't a bad person and they're quite happy and that makes me happy so this isn't a red flag scenario for me. The issue is that we ended up meeting a lot earlier than I would have preferred and since then she has tried to interact online almost daily and I can't tell if she's trying to be friendly, feel included, compete, or something else and honestly it doesn't really matter.
If I post something on instagram she's the first to like it and I can't make my instagram private because I use it for work purposes. If the person I'm seeing and I start casually talking about something in public on Facebook she jumps in almost immediately and it's almost always with a non-sequitur that turns the focus back on her. I've had a couple friends double check this because I wasn't sure whether or not I was being biased. When I would reply she would turn it into what kind of felt like a competition about who was right? She's also made some really unflattering posts and insinuations about my nationality (I'm Russian). Nothing has been super overt or dramatic and maybe other people wouldn't have a problem with this but she's driving me crazy. Are there any coping strategies I can enact? I don't want to feel like I can only talk to this guy in private but I almost feel like that's what I'm going to have to end up doing?
My issue is that his other partner drives me up the wall. She isn't a bad person and they're quite happy and that makes me happy so this isn't a red flag scenario for me. The issue is that we ended up meeting a lot earlier than I would have preferred and since then she has tried to interact online almost daily and I can't tell if she's trying to be friendly, feel included, compete, or something else and honestly it doesn't really matter.
If I post something on instagram she's the first to like it and I can't make my instagram private because I use it for work purposes. If the person I'm seeing and I start casually talking about something in public on Facebook she jumps in almost immediately and it's almost always with a non-sequitur that turns the focus back on her. I've had a couple friends double check this because I wasn't sure whether or not I was being biased. When I would reply she would turn it into what kind of felt like a competition about who was right? She's also made some really unflattering posts and insinuations about my nationality (I'm Russian). Nothing has been super overt or dramatic and maybe other people wouldn't have a problem with this but she's driving me crazy. Are there any coping strategies I can enact? I don't want to feel like I can only talk to this guy in private but I almost feel like that's what I'm going to have to end up doing?
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