Amarna
New member
This all seems like one big, new adventure to me, hence the title. Mainly I think this will be a good way to process my feelings and thoughts as the evolve in this new chapter of my life.
I guess I'll start with a little about myself and my relationship(s). I've been married to my husband--let's call him Mechanic, as he loves to fix things--for nearly 10 years now, together 11 total. We have two children together, girls ages 9 and 3 whom we home school.
I'm currently unemployed and Mechanic works part time, we are both looking for full time work and whoever finds it first will be the main breadwinner so to speak while the other primarily stays home with the kids. We both hope that he finds work as I would greatly enjoy being a stay at home, homeschooling mom but for practicality's sake I'm also willing to work if that's what's best for the family.
We recently decided to open our relationship after lots of discussion. I brought the topic up to my husband after months of reading about polyamory and soul searching. I was raised in a very Christian home and until a couple years ago when I made a friend who is herself poly I had never so much as considered it or even knew about it as an alternative to the typical.
Mechanic and I married very young and he is really the only long term relationship or real relationship that I've had. I want to connect with other people and explore deep and yes, romantic, relationships with other people and feel that it's important to my personal growth to pursue that at this point in my life. Mechanic was open to the idea for himself but struggled (and still does at times) with the idea of me having a relationship with someone outside of himself. He's done a lot of inner self work in the past few weeks and has sought help from others that he trusts to talk things over with. He's come to understand that I do still very much love him but need to experience different relationships at this point in my life.
He's gone on one date with a lady so far but has decided to forgo further dating for the moment until he gets a better idea of where he stands and what he wants from a relationship at this time.
More on me to come in another post that seems better suited to standing on it's own.
I guess I'll start with a little about myself and my relationship(s). I've been married to my husband--let's call him Mechanic, as he loves to fix things--for nearly 10 years now, together 11 total. We have two children together, girls ages 9 and 3 whom we home school.
I'm currently unemployed and Mechanic works part time, we are both looking for full time work and whoever finds it first will be the main breadwinner so to speak while the other primarily stays home with the kids. We both hope that he finds work as I would greatly enjoy being a stay at home, homeschooling mom but for practicality's sake I'm also willing to work if that's what's best for the family.
We recently decided to open our relationship after lots of discussion. I brought the topic up to my husband after months of reading about polyamory and soul searching. I was raised in a very Christian home and until a couple years ago when I made a friend who is herself poly I had never so much as considered it or even knew about it as an alternative to the typical.
Mechanic and I married very young and he is really the only long term relationship or real relationship that I've had. I want to connect with other people and explore deep and yes, romantic, relationships with other people and feel that it's important to my personal growth to pursue that at this point in my life. Mechanic was open to the idea for himself but struggled (and still does at times) with the idea of me having a relationship with someone outside of himself. He's done a lot of inner self work in the past few weeks and has sought help from others that he trusts to talk things over with. He's come to understand that I do still very much love him but need to experience different relationships at this point in my life.
He's gone on one date with a lady so far but has decided to forgo further dating for the moment until he gets a better idea of where he stands and what he wants from a relationship at this time.
More on me to come in another post that seems better suited to standing on it's own.