Casual Sex - Discussion

there's not much to say about the article. It's almost perfect really, it comes full circle. Everyone here got the same idea really, there's a balancing of opinions, and it's nice :)
2012 HERE WE COME!
 
what of the female equivalent of a blow job... do men (and women) feel that when they go down on a woman it is for the same reason? do they like it for the same reason?

I do, I get into it just as much, if not more, as it is more rare in my life... I want that juxtaposition of control, yet submission just as much, even if it is harder to determine...

I also love the private, intimacy of being between anyones legs. the vulnerability of them reaching orgasm. It is such a special place and deserves attention and to be made to feel very special. I have become uninterested in bestowing that kind of giving on just anyone anymore. That kind of giving just for the sake of getting off.

Perhaps my favorite type of porn is the amateur stuff where people take videos of themselves masturbating slowly, lovingly kissing, touching someone else with desire and passion, rather than horniness.... as they would without an audience with someone they care about. I love seeing others immersed in the wholeness that comes with having sex with someone you care for and love. I don't care if I don't see their bits fucking, just knowing they are and experiencing what that is about is enough.
 
i'll keep it simple,
i don't agree casual sex is right and it is not for me...
but do believe in choice and i do not thrust my opinions upon others. but sicne u ask. i've let you know my opinion...
whats right for me, may not work for you and vice versa but that don't make it wrong in either case......
love this thread Red, i love a good heated discussion! bring it on!!! lol :)
 
Amateur porn is definitely better than mainstream porn, as far as I'm concerned.

I don't get turned on by porn much though. I tend to get turned on when I'm watching shows about end-of-the-world scenarios (usually fiction or science-fiction, but sometimes documentary), as well as other types of scenes not necessarily having to do with sex.

Also, "Tess of the d'Urbervilles", but not for the reasons most of you would probably think.
 
what of the female equivalent of a blow job... do men (and women) feel that when they go down on a woman it is for the same reason? do they like it for the same reason?

I do, I get into it just as much, if not more, as it is more rare in my life... I want that juxtaposition of control, yet submission just as much, even if it is harder to determine...

I really, really like giving the female equivalent of a BJ. I like doing it because I like giving someone more pleasure than they can handle. Orgasm after orgasm until they literally flee the room or pass out(both have happened, I was thrilled). I also like the feeling of competence and security it gives(if I give a girl 9 orgasms in a row, I will never be told that I don't satisfy a woman in the bed).

Ugh. Now I need a cold shower.
 
i don't agree casual sex is right and it is not for me...
but do believe in choice and i do not thrust my opinions upon others.

What does this mean? When I read something like this, I think that someone is saying that they want to justify feeling morally superior for not having a kind of sex that they aren't interested in. What do you mean when you say "I don't agree casual sex is right"?
 
I really, really like giving the female equivalent of a BJ. I like doing it because I like giving someone more pleasure than they can handle. Orgasm after orgasm until they literally flee the room or pass out(both have happened, I was thrilled). I also like the feeling of competence and security it gives(if I give a girl 9 orgasms in a row, I will never be told that I don't satisfy a woman in the bed).

Ugh. Now I need a cold shower.

make that TWO ppl in this forum that need a cold shower... *whimper*
and umm bum.... It is ppl like you, that make women the whold world over scream in pleasure but at the same time...beg you to stop!!!! roflmao!
ever hear of tantric sex? i think you'd be reaalllllly good at it LOL
ok now i gotta re-read this forum thread to see how we went from casual sex to this but forst..
i gotta go shower! thanks bum LOL
 
what of the female equivalent of a blow job... do men (and women) feel that when they go down on a woman it is for the same reason? do they like it for the same reason?

I view it as the most intimate act. I get to be up close and personal--with parts of me that see, feel, smell, taste, and hear--with the most female of body regions. A part of her that she most likely keeps most private from the world at large--and I get to share it. Woohoo!

Then, there's the wash of purely physical sensation, using those senses referenced above. It's a great deal of fun to play--in the purely childlike sense--with those parts. They get slippery, some of the tissue swells, it's soft and warm, she makes wonderful noises and wiggles around. More fun than a can of PlayDo and a bucket of Slime...tastes better, too.
 
"I don't agree casual sex is right"?

I'll chime in on this one, probably to wear it LOL!

I mirror that statement but will add "for me". It simply means I personally won't engage in it because it goes against my idea of sexual sharing nor would I invest in some one who does. But lots of people would not invest in me because of my sexual attitudes either. Every one is entitled to their "internal" opinion, but it is a problem when those opinions are "thrust " upon others. If I was to ridicule someone who enjoys casual sex because I don't, that would be a problem. Respect for diversity in all aspects of life should be the goal...not conversion to one way.

Let the flames fly!!
 
If anyone has seen Californication(a showtime show), David Duchovny's character pretty much sums up my views of life and sexual relationships.

sex can mean whatever you want it to mean. The trick is, to express that and make decisions accordingly and openly in your life that's the problem.
 
If anyone has seen Californication(a showtime show), David Duchovny's character pretty much sums up my views of life and sexual relationships.

sex can mean whatever you want it to mean. The trick is, to express that and make decisions accordingly and openly in your life that's the problem.

Best show Ever!!!
 
There are definite logistic issues with 69ing :)

....this thread is cracking me up!! Not only is this a knowledgable group, but very funny also......:D I like it!!

So.....what about the 69 when you are on your sides rather than one person on top of the other one?? In every case I have experienced of simultaneous orgasm in a 69 it was where we were on our sides. Now- I usually date guys that are about 5'8" and I'm 5'4" so that might be why it seems to work so well???
 
I'm in the "not crazy about 69" camp. The main reason being that both receiving and performing oral sex require a great deal of attention to fully enjoy. When I've 69ed, I find I either forget to perform, or else I forget to enjoy receiving. That's all in addition to the physical awkwardness of it.
 
I'm in the "not crazy about 69" camp. The main reason being that both receiving and performing oral sex require a great deal of attention to fully enjoy. When I've 69ed, I find I either forget to perform, or else I forget to enjoy receiving. That's all in addition to the physical awkwardness of it.


This is another reason I don't care for it.
 
I'm in the "not crazy about 69" camp. The main reason being that both receiving and performing oral sex require a great deal of attention to fully enjoy. When I've 69ed, I find I either forget to perform, or else I forget to enjoy receiving. That's all in addition to the physical awkwardness of it.

I know!!! But being really relaxed on your sides so that no one is having to be propped up on top of the other one makes is easier to enjoy. And the key is to get comfortable first. Like meditation. The whole purpose for Hatha Yoga (which most people don't realized) is to get the body ready to meditate. You can't meditate when your body is uncomfortalbe. So- get comfortable in the position first. Use pillows if neccessary. Each person should be so comfortable that they could potentially take a nap in that position. Now....Once each person is completely comfortable....then you start very slowly. And it does take concnetration, but we all know how to multi task.....remember, you are only doing two things. Giving pleasure and experiencing pleasure. Taking it slowly is important. There is no rush. There doesn't need to be a goal. The worst thing that can happen is that both people get so excited and then they move right into intercourse. The best thing that can happen is that they experience a simultaeous orgasm.
 
There doesn't need to be a goal. The worst thing that can happen is that both people get so excited and then they move right into intercourse. The best thing that can happen is that they experience a simultaeous orgasm.

I think this is important. Not just in 69 but with good sex in general. When you go in with a specific agenda you often lose the 'moment'. The natural flow and spontaneity.

The best spontaneous orgasm 69's I've experience weren't planned. But - at least for me - when I feel someone else approaching that point I tend to get pulled along with them easily if I allow it. But that's just my personality. I'm more of a 'pleaser' than a 'be pleased' person because I love the vibes from a person who is in a state of sensual bliss. And no doubt there's some ego component in there because I'm contributing to that state. But I tend to experience it in general even if I'm not a major contributor.

GS
 
I love horizontal 69's...If you time to(for lack of a better word) waste, it's the best thing ever. you can just post up, and eat out forever, lol :) My girl has issues with me eating her cookies though, so Q_Q.
 
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