Hi together,
I have tried to find some advice in various relationship/baby forums but always got the same answers, from standard couples, that simply didnt help in any way, until I stumbled across this forum.
I'm currently in a polyamorous relationship:
I have a main partner (male), and another (female). My main partner has another (female). It all works incredibly harmonic between all of us. Now my main partner and me want a baby together. We are both at a good point in our careers, live stable lives, have our own flats, etc.
Now the only problem is I'm suddenly afraid to loose my independence. Which has always been very important to me. Now he says that we will figure it out, that he will support me. That's nice, but I don't want to be dependent of him, or anyone for that matter. Even when it comes to paying dinner, we always have discussions, because I feel uncomfortable being invited (except if we take turns), but he defines himself as being old-school...
Even though I know, I have him, my family, my friends, I kinda need the feeling of being able to do it on my own with a baby, and I don't have that right now.
little sidenote: my second partner has a child, and his second partner aswell - not from him though.
Anyone here had similar experiences/feelings?
I'm grateful for any advice..
Kaytleen
I have tried to find some advice in various relationship/baby forums but always got the same answers, from standard couples, that simply didnt help in any way, until I stumbled across this forum.
I'm currently in a polyamorous relationship:
I have a main partner (male), and another (female). My main partner has another (female). It all works incredibly harmonic between all of us. Now my main partner and me want a baby together. We are both at a good point in our careers, live stable lives, have our own flats, etc.
Now the only problem is I'm suddenly afraid to loose my independence. Which has always been very important to me. Now he says that we will figure it out, that he will support me. That's nice, but I don't want to be dependent of him, or anyone for that matter. Even when it comes to paying dinner, we always have discussions, because I feel uncomfortable being invited (except if we take turns), but he defines himself as being old-school...
Even though I know, I have him, my family, my friends, I kinda need the feeling of being able to do it on my own with a baby, and I don't have that right now.
little sidenote: my second partner has a child, and his second partner aswell - not from him though.
Anyone here had similar experiences/feelings?
I'm grateful for any advice..
Kaytleen