tecklemino
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Actually, im not even sure what my question is. Maybe i just need to organize my thoughts...
So, i am in the military. I am combat arms, in a position that deploys half of every year. During the time that i am home, i am usually away on TDY in training. I end up being home about two months a year when you put it all together.
I am barely a husband to my wife because of how much i am gone. I talk to her as often as i can when i am gone, but its not the same as being here. I love my wife, she is amazing. We have been married for over ten years, and i have been gone, fighting in wars for most of those ten years.
Im thinking about trying to find a couple for my wife. I know there are a lot of "unicorn hunters" out there... so, im sure we would have plenty if takers. My wife would prefer a couple anyway. Especially if they are willing to get her out of the house every once in a while when i am gone.
Its hard on her. For half the year, every year, she worries that i might not come home. It is not unfounded fear... 8 of my friends have died in just the last year. And that is not counting the 40 or so that preceded them over the years.
We are thinking about trying to find a couple that might learn to love her and be willing to invest time in her. As long as they treat her well and dont try to disrespect me, i would have no issues with it. Better yet if i can share some hobbies with them.
Does this sound like a bad idea? My wife is bisexual, so she could love both parties in a couple romantically so long as she clicks with them.
I wont get out of the army. I have lost a lot of friends, but i have also saved a lot. I keep deploying to hot spots because i am one of the best at what i do, and i am really good at bringing my guys home. To date, i have not lost a single soldier who is subordinate to me, and i get requests all the time from various ODA's for support because of my track record. It is not in me to say no to them. Last year a team decided not to bring me for some reason. Four of them died, and i believe i could have prevented it had i been there.
I dont expect anyone to understand where i am coming from. But i would like to hear other peoples experiences, if it relates.
It would be much easier for me to do what i do if i KNOW that there are people who care about my wife and daughter enough to take care of them while i am gone. I would feel indebted to them...
We have been doing this all on our own for a long time. It has been hard, but very rewarding.
So what do you think? I would be fine with my wife taking a "second husband" too, so long as he is not an ass...
So, i am in the military. I am combat arms, in a position that deploys half of every year. During the time that i am home, i am usually away on TDY in training. I end up being home about two months a year when you put it all together.
I am barely a husband to my wife because of how much i am gone. I talk to her as often as i can when i am gone, but its not the same as being here. I love my wife, she is amazing. We have been married for over ten years, and i have been gone, fighting in wars for most of those ten years.
Im thinking about trying to find a couple for my wife. I know there are a lot of "unicorn hunters" out there... so, im sure we would have plenty if takers. My wife would prefer a couple anyway. Especially if they are willing to get her out of the house every once in a while when i am gone.
Its hard on her. For half the year, every year, she worries that i might not come home. It is not unfounded fear... 8 of my friends have died in just the last year. And that is not counting the 40 or so that preceded them over the years.
We are thinking about trying to find a couple that might learn to love her and be willing to invest time in her. As long as they treat her well and dont try to disrespect me, i would have no issues with it. Better yet if i can share some hobbies with them.
Does this sound like a bad idea? My wife is bisexual, so she could love both parties in a couple romantically so long as she clicks with them.
I wont get out of the army. I have lost a lot of friends, but i have also saved a lot. I keep deploying to hot spots because i am one of the best at what i do, and i am really good at bringing my guys home. To date, i have not lost a single soldier who is subordinate to me, and i get requests all the time from various ODA's for support because of my track record. It is not in me to say no to them. Last year a team decided not to bring me for some reason. Four of them died, and i believe i could have prevented it had i been there.
I dont expect anyone to understand where i am coming from. But i would like to hear other peoples experiences, if it relates.
It would be much easier for me to do what i do if i KNOW that there are people who care about my wife and daughter enough to take care of them while i am gone. I would feel indebted to them...
We have been doing this all on our own for a long time. It has been hard, but very rewarding.
So what do you think? I would be fine with my wife taking a "second husband" too, so long as he is not an ass...