PrincssMnM
New member
Hi everyone!
I'm sorry if this gets long or confusing - if I leave any details out, feel free to ask!
My story starts like any other - I've had many monogamous relationships, most didn't work, and I always found myself falling for others while still in them and then thinking what was wrong with me. I'm currently married (will be 9 years this summer) and my husband is very mono. I've always struggled with monogamy, though I never really knew why, and again, continued to think something was wrong with me because that's not how relationships are, right?
As polygamy and polyamory started becoming more known, I found myself getting more and more curious - but still thinking I was wrong and that I need to work on my marriage more, focus on us. My husband and I have had our share of issues, there was a time where we separated and I planned on leaving. We decided to work through that, and still have some trust/insecurity issues (on his part) .
Recently, I've come to him and expressed that I think I may be poly, however I don't know for sure. I've also spoken to a good friend of mine about this. My husband has been mostly supportive, but gets his insecure moments now and then - he and I have both been reading the book More Than Two as a starting point.
My friend, however, seems to think that this is just a random thing that I have suddenly come up with, even after I've explained to her about my past. She has said that it's atypical for humans to feel poly, and that I need to figure out the reason I feel this way since it's not in my culture. So I guess my question is how did you know, without a doubt, that you were poly?
I'm sorry if this gets long or confusing - if I leave any details out, feel free to ask!
My story starts like any other - I've had many monogamous relationships, most didn't work, and I always found myself falling for others while still in them and then thinking what was wrong with me. I'm currently married (will be 9 years this summer) and my husband is very mono. I've always struggled with monogamy, though I never really knew why, and again, continued to think something was wrong with me because that's not how relationships are, right?
As polygamy and polyamory started becoming more known, I found myself getting more and more curious - but still thinking I was wrong and that I need to work on my marriage more, focus on us. My husband and I have had our share of issues, there was a time where we separated and I planned on leaving. We decided to work through that, and still have some trust/insecurity issues (on his part) .
Recently, I've come to him and expressed that I think I may be poly, however I don't know for sure. I've also spoken to a good friend of mine about this. My husband has been mostly supportive, but gets his insecure moments now and then - he and I have both been reading the book More Than Two as a starting point.
My friend, however, seems to think that this is just a random thing that I have suddenly come up with, even after I've explained to her about my past. She has said that it's atypical for humans to feel poly, and that I need to figure out the reason I feel this way since it's not in my culture. So I guess my question is how did you know, without a doubt, that you were poly?