I've been with my girlfriend for over a year now. I always knew she'd struggle with monogamy, but she's done it for the first 9 months. Now she wants me to let her sleep with whoever she wants, whenever she wants. She's not interested in starting relationships with other men; she just wants casual lovers.
My only issue is the frequency of it. From everything she's told me, she would like to sleep with other men as regularly as once a month. I'm happy to be monogamous with her, possibly forever, certainly for the next few years. I don't need or even want anyone else. I'm open to the idea of polyamory and believe that in the future our relationship will benefit from it.
The idea of her having another lover does not bother me. What bothers me is the frequency she wants to sleep with others, especially people I will come into contact with. I find it disrespectful.
Has anyone else experienced this kind of relationship, mono/poly, where the poly person wants regular sex with lots of different people, away from their partner? If so, do you have any tips on making it work? Thanks!
My only issue is the frequency of it. From everything she's told me, she would like to sleep with other men as regularly as once a month. I'm happy to be monogamous with her, possibly forever, certainly for the next few years. I don't need or even want anyone else. I'm open to the idea of polyamory and believe that in the future our relationship will benefit from it.
The idea of her having another lover does not bother me. What bothers me is the frequency she wants to sleep with others, especially people I will come into contact with. I find it disrespectful.
Has anyone else experienced this kind of relationship, mono/poly, where the poly person wants regular sex with lots of different people, away from their partner? If so, do you have any tips on making it work? Thanks!