YouAreHere
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My observations and experience have been different, and your response reminds me of when my mom used to say, "They say things about you because they're jealous of you."
Well, no. They said things because they want to fit in with their peer group, and I didn't fit in, so I got to be a target instead. Us versus them. They sure as hell didn't want what I had.
My friends who've had negative things to say about Poly don't want to BE poly. They've taken umbrage at the whole idea of poly relationships, and believe they're disrespectful and that I must be "getting hurt" somehow, or being taken advantage of, and I'm not able to see it for myself. They are, in their own way, being protective of me, and getting indignant FOR me. Some have taken it so far as to ostracize him from their lives.
They sure as hell don't want to BE me, nor do they want to be P.
Maybe your experience is different, but you can't make an absolute statement based on your anecdotal experience (and neither can I).
Well, no. They said things because they want to fit in with their peer group, and I didn't fit in, so I got to be a target instead. Us versus them. They sure as hell didn't want what I had.
My friends who've had negative things to say about Poly don't want to BE poly. They've taken umbrage at the whole idea of poly relationships, and believe they're disrespectful and that I must be "getting hurt" somehow, or being taken advantage of, and I'm not able to see it for myself. They are, in their own way, being protective of me, and getting indignant FOR me. Some have taken it so far as to ostracize him from their lives.
They sure as hell don't want to BE me, nor do they want to be P.
Maybe your experience is different, but you can't make an absolute statement based on your anecdotal experience (and neither can I).