Likeapanda101
New member
Hi I'm Hannah, I'm 19 and I'm almost certain I'm poly.
I want to get out there and explore this new side of me, but I have a few questions.
*I know that what I'm asking probably doesn't have a definite answer as things vary from person to person, so I want to know about your personal experiences and what is true for yourself
1. I know that most people just stick to dating other poly people, but I want to be prepared for anyone that might catch my interest. How do I explain poly to potential partners? I'm personally am confused on what it means to BE poly. For me, I believe relationships don't always fill every need, so connecting with other people to meet your needs should be normal. However, I understand that if you have a "primary", the specific nature of polyness is subject to change (maybe it's just for sex, maybe its an equal playing field without hierchy). So how do I explain what I am or what poly is when I don't even know what agreement we'd come to?
2. There is a guy I'm interested in, and I have no clue if he is or would be interested in poly. In general, does inviting someone who hasn't thought about being poly into a poly relationship a bad idea?
3. If you don't have any relationships and you're REALLY into someone, but they don't believe in being poly, would you be able to "set the poly aside"? Is being poly something that you need in order to be happy and you can't change (like being gay) or is it something you could live without but is always an option (like being bi), or does that depend on the person?
I want to get out there and explore this new side of me, but I have a few questions.
*I know that what I'm asking probably doesn't have a definite answer as things vary from person to person, so I want to know about your personal experiences and what is true for yourself
1. I know that most people just stick to dating other poly people, but I want to be prepared for anyone that might catch my interest. How do I explain poly to potential partners? I'm personally am confused on what it means to BE poly. For me, I believe relationships don't always fill every need, so connecting with other people to meet your needs should be normal. However, I understand that if you have a "primary", the specific nature of polyness is subject to change (maybe it's just for sex, maybe its an equal playing field without hierchy). So how do I explain what I am or what poly is when I don't even know what agreement we'd come to?
2. There is a guy I'm interested in, and I have no clue if he is or would be interested in poly. In general, does inviting someone who hasn't thought about being poly into a poly relationship a bad idea?
3. If you don't have any relationships and you're REALLY into someone, but they don't believe in being poly, would you be able to "set the poly aside"? Is being poly something that you need in order to be happy and you can't change (like being gay) or is it something you could live without but is always an option (like being bi), or does that depend on the person?