I wouldn't be arrogant enough to assume that all women, given the choice, would refuse to be part of this sort of lifestyle. Many religions, or rather, subsets of the major religions, feel the same about child bearing. It's problematic when people would force everyone to live according to their own standards, but that goes for many people who cannot comprehend why people would make a different choice to them if they were privy to the same information.
The funny thing is, you assume girls raised in this cult are given a "choice" to be valued for merely their uteruses and ability to cook, or force their daughters to cook, gigantic meals for the family 3 times a day, and do enormous load of laundry, only to be rewarded with reading the cult's interpretation of the Bible constantly reminding them of their inferiority to men.
Even the Amish allow their teens to have Rumspringa. Quiverfull girls and boys are not allowed access to mainstream culture at all, no movies, no TV, no internet, no books except those chosen by the cult's curriculum of ATI.
Yes, every mom and dad make choices for their children, but this kind of isolation and repression leads to just the kind of secret-keeping and stealth that Josh practiced. Molesting FOUR of his sisters, and one friend! Pretending he'd "reformed," telling his fiancee he had gotten past this abusive behavior for 2 years before marriage, and keeping up the facade for 6 and a half years until he was outed by the media.
Also, is it really healthy for the 19 Duggar kids to have been raised before the cameras, on their fame whore parents' own show and various other shows? They are
trained, again, like dogs, to plaster strained smiles on their faces from toddlerhood, to keep up this facade over any true feelings of discontent or desire for privacy they have, with the threat of a beating with a rod hanging over them if they disobey. I find that horrific.
And now all the kids are catching this need for self-exploitation. One of the sisters was pregnant when Josh's first scandal was revealed, and pissed off her sister got to give birth on camera and have a whole episode focused on her, and now she wouldn't have that chance! sigh...
There are millions of abusers and abused people.
And your point? We shouldn't express an opinion of this particular family's form of abuse at all?
This cult has the outmoded viewpoint that men's sex drives are rampant and unbridled. I read an excerpt from
Growing Up Duggar, written by several of the sisters, that when the family is out in public, the females in the family call out a code word: Nike! to remind their own father and their brothers to look at their own shoes when an "immodestly" dressed woman walks by. The girls are expected to reign in their own father's lust!
The women are also NEVER allowed to say no to their husbands when he wants sex from them. They do not have control over their own bodies. The only time Michelle Duggar and her husband JimBob abstain from sex is when they believe the Bible tells them to, for 80 days after the birth of a daughter, and 40 days after the birth of a son, and when she is menstruating and unclean. It's never just because Michelle isn't in the mood, or sick, or exhausted, as she and all Quiverfull women must so often be, overworked and usually pregnant as they are. Nope, lie down and spread 'em honey, the Man has a hard-on and can NOT be refused.
Nice for the men!