WonderingWife
New member
Hi there!
My husband and I have talked many times about the concept of polyamory and opening up our marriage, but it's not something we have ever seriously planned on doing. I am bisexual, and he accepts that I may be attracted to other women. He seems completely fine with my acting upon my attractions with other women, but I have the feeling he would not be ok with my acting on my attractions with other men. Which is all very well and good as I would not be one hundred percent comfortable with him acting on his attractions to other women without first discussing it with me. I find myself on this forum because polyamory is a concept I keep coming back to. My husband is very friendly and very flirtatious, but when I tell him this makes me uncomfortable when he flirts with other women (because they often get the wrong idea), he just gets mad at me and flirts even harder (or more than just flirting) in secret. It's not the concept of his finding happiness with someone else in addition to our relationship. That totally makes sense to me. For me, it's the dishonesty factor. Plus, to be perfectly honest, jealousy is a character flaw that I have to fight very hard on a daily basis. I think opening up our marriage could really help both of us. As they say, love should multiply, not divide.
Do any of you have any thoughts/tips, etc. about opening up a marriage? Have any of you done is successfully? What were the outcomes - good and bad?
My husband and I have talked many times about the concept of polyamory and opening up our marriage, but it's not something we have ever seriously planned on doing. I am bisexual, and he accepts that I may be attracted to other women. He seems completely fine with my acting upon my attractions with other women, but I have the feeling he would not be ok with my acting on my attractions with other men. Which is all very well and good as I would not be one hundred percent comfortable with him acting on his attractions to other women without first discussing it with me. I find myself on this forum because polyamory is a concept I keep coming back to. My husband is very friendly and very flirtatious, but when I tell him this makes me uncomfortable when he flirts with other women (because they often get the wrong idea), he just gets mad at me and flirts even harder (or more than just flirting) in secret. It's not the concept of his finding happiness with someone else in addition to our relationship. That totally makes sense to me. For me, it's the dishonesty factor. Plus, to be perfectly honest, jealousy is a character flaw that I have to fight very hard on a daily basis. I think opening up our marriage could really help both of us. As they say, love should multiply, not divide.
Do any of you have any thoughts/tips, etc. about opening up a marriage? Have any of you done is successfully? What were the outcomes - good and bad?