polymath257
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I am a married 52 year old man. When my wife, C, and I first got together, I was in a long term relationship (7 years at that point) with L, and C was married to one man and in a long distance relationship with another, J. For a while, all people involved got along and life was very good. But over the course of a year, my C's marriage broke down and L got very jealous of C. Communication between me and L broke down (always a bad sign).
Thus ensued a year of poly-hell after which C and I ending up together and everyone else going their separate ways. C and I didn't get married for a few more years, but we agreed to a non-monogamous situation. Well, theory and practice don't always align so well and we have been de facto monogamous (but open to new possibilities) for several years until recently. I think both of us have been a bit gun-shy given the 'year of hell'. Nobody either of us has met seemed to be worth the emotional risks.
Recently, my wife re-established connection with J and, with my whole-hearted approval, they began seeing each other again. This is still LDR, but they seem to both be OK with that. All is well and good on that score. I am still open for new relationships, but am happy as things stand right now.
Anyway, I felt the need to communicate on poly matters and this forum seems like a good place to start.
Thus ensued a year of poly-hell after which C and I ending up together and everyone else going their separate ways. C and I didn't get married for a few more years, but we agreed to a non-monogamous situation. Well, theory and practice don't always align so well and we have been de facto monogamous (but open to new possibilities) for several years until recently. I think both of us have been a bit gun-shy given the 'year of hell'. Nobody either of us has met seemed to be worth the emotional risks.
Recently, my wife re-established connection with J and, with my whole-hearted approval, they began seeing each other again. This is still LDR, but they seem to both be OK with that. All is well and good on that score. I am still open for new relationships, but am happy as things stand right now.
Anyway, I felt the need to communicate on poly matters and this forum seems like a good place to start.