becibedore
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I've been in a common law relationship with my partner for 10 years now I was poly before we got together but he refused to believe it so I was forced to live in a monogamous relationship for 8 years 2 years ago I found myself attracted to another man and not being able to shake the desire for him negotiated with my partner to have a relationship with this other man acting as a sexual surrogate for us, not really what I wanted and over the next few months I grew increasingly emotionally attached to my so called surrogate then my partner told his parents and they ganged up and threatened the man out of my life. Now I find myself in a similar situation with another man my partner and i have been doing nothing but fighting for weeks, he keeps saying i don't love him and that if i did i wouldnt feel this way and that i love this other guy (whom i've had no physical contact with yet BTW) more than I love him. I have tried to help him understand that this is who i am but he just says i should love him enough to just leave. HELP!!