InsaneMystic
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Of my two exes, one is gone and good riddance... haven't heard from her in, like, nine years by now - and seeing as she turned out to be a pathological liar who "catfished" me from day one, I prefer it to stay that way, TYVM.
The other one, R. (the one the breakup in my signature refers to), is still/again one of the closest friends I have in my life. It did take a few very rough months for both of us to get over the turmoil of the breakup, but we're really close again, now; except for spending less time together than we did as a couple, there's little difference from how we acted towards each other back then and how we act towards each other now; just proves again that "close/best friend" and "partner" are two terms that blur heavily at the edges, for me. (We never had sex in our six-plus years together, so that's not a factor there, anyway.)
We're not ever getting back together though - the things she was unhappy/frustrated about at the end of our 'ship were valid, and they haven't changed and aren't likely to do so, ever... so I guess it's best for her happiness if I stay in the "close friend" role in her life and leave the "partner" role for other folks who are better suited to her wants and needs (and it's clear that these two roles are more different to her than they are to me).
Like the new gal she's with, now - with whom I'm on pretty good terms, too. I'm glad these two fine gals found each other.
The other one, R. (the one the breakup in my signature refers to), is still/again one of the closest friends I have in my life. It did take a few very rough months for both of us to get over the turmoil of the breakup, but we're really close again, now; except for spending less time together than we did as a couple, there's little difference from how we acted towards each other back then and how we act towards each other now; just proves again that "close/best friend" and "partner" are two terms that blur heavily at the edges, for me. (We never had sex in our six-plus years together, so that's not a factor there, anyway.)
We're not ever getting back together though - the things she was unhappy/frustrated about at the end of our 'ship were valid, and they haven't changed and aren't likely to do so, ever... so I guess it's best for her happiness if I stay in the "close friend" role in her life and leave the "partner" role for other folks who are better suited to her wants and needs (and it's clear that these two roles are more different to her than they are to me).
Like the new gal she's with, now - with whom I'm on pretty good terms, too. I'm glad these two fine gals found each other.